Message to all.

[eileen]

My mother died this evening so I may not be around much in the next week or so.

Take care and look after each other until I get back.

Lots of love to everyone.

Eileen.

[eileen]

[Palustris]

Our deepest sympathy is extended to you. Take great care of yourself and return when you can.

[Roy Bham UK]

Thinking of you and your family at this sad time.

[Kerry]

oh Eileen, i am very sorry to hear that. my sympathies go to you and yours and do take care.

[Multiveg]

Awww, sorry to hear that Eileen. Please accept my condolences.

Lots of love,

MV & the beetroot sower

[Hot_Potato]

I'm so sorry Eileen to hear of your sad news - my sympathies are with you and yours - take care.

Maggie

[windygale]

Sorry to hear about your mother,i understand how you feel as my father passed away not so long ago as well, so take care.
Best wishes to everyone at this sad time.
windy gale

[Jendaffodil]

Eileen I was so sorry to read your sad news tonight.  take care, we shall all be thinking of you and yours.

[busy_lizzie]

Eileen, I am so sorry to hear your sad news.  Have an idea what you must be going through having just experienced the same thing.  You must feel devastated.  Please look after yourself.  My thoughts and prayers go out to you tonight. love, busy_lizzie  

[Wicker]

My thoughts are with you, Eileen, there is little I can say but please know that you have our fondest sympathy.  Another Real Leither has gone I think....

[Ozzy]

Eileen

am sending u many hugs.u aint alone girl.. and any time u want to tell us about your mammy then u go right ahead, would love to hear of those special moments u shared wiv ur mammy my own mammy died some 2 years ago or so and now only realise the gift she gave me and i will share that gift with you eileen the gift she gave me. and that was love and compassion which i offer you freely and i look forward to the days when u speak of the good times u shared, the times she made u laugh in so many ways, feel so sad with you eileen and want u to know i aprrecaite your light and thank you for it...and anytime u feel like talking will be here...

ciaran

xxxxxx

[Moggle]

Oh Eileen what sad news. My thoughts are with you.

[Doris_Pinks]

Eileen. take care of yourself, thinking of you and yours. DP

[teresa]

Oh Eileen,
So sorry to hear the sad news,been there so know what your going through.
Just remember the good times with her.
She will be with you in spirit if not in body. That thought gets me over the feeling of loss.
Cyber hugs to you and your family.
Teresa

[Val]

Thinking of you Eileen. God Bless.

[aquilegia]

Oh Eileen honey, I'm so sorry. Huge hugs from me to you and your family.

[Gardengirl]

So sorry to hear your sad news Eileen -   I too have been there so know just how you are feeling.  Loads of cyber hugs to you and your family at this sad time.

Lots of love

Pat

[tim]

Just did the same last week. It's not just the loss - but all the unbelievable hassle? = Tim

[busy_lizzie]

Really agree with you Tim.  My mother died on the 11th October and we weren't able to organise the funeral until a week later -  a full week after she died.  Because of the Harold Shipman  thing it is now a lot more complicated to get death certificates and things.  I know it is for a good reason, but it is extra stress for the family to cope with.  You feel as though you are in limbo until you have the formal farewell ceremony.  

As you say it is not only the grief, which probably doesn't start properly until it is all over with, but the energy it takes to organise everything.  Our house was funeral arrangements HQ and we are really feeling it now.  It sucks up all of your reserves of energy - even though we have been doing our best to get out in the fresh air and get back to normal now. There is the loss acompanied by the feeling of recuperating from an illness, you feel so tired. Unless your are religious, death is such a mystery and stirs up so many different feelings. I do believe in the spirit but it sets you off on a train of thought that doesn't often intrude on day to day life.

Eileen has been so much on my mind.  I have been wondering how she is coping and I hope when the formal goodbyes are over with she can take time to rest and be gentle with herself. Sorry I have just realised how much I am rattling on, so please excuse me, think I am getting a little maudling. I know many on this board have been through horrendous experiences, I do know I am lucky that my mother died after a very long life, and others are not so fortunate, so my apologies for going on too much     :-[  busy_lizzie  

[Spurdie]

Sorry to hear of your sad loss, Eileen. Thinking of you and your family in your time of grief.