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Hi B L, any news for us yet on the wedding??.

Just wanted to update you.  After another two refusals from vicars and an e-mail  sent to the Bishop, my daughter and her fiance had an intervew with the Canon of a local church this morning and he said he would be pleased to marry them in his church,  - no problem.  My daughter said he was a lovely man and she is thrilled as we all are.  A little persistance is a good thing, I think.  :D busy_lizzie

I'm a elder in our local church (Presbyterian) and we allow divorced people to marry if they are the Innocent party, with the cofE its up to the local vicar

Hi Busy-Lizzie, i am so pleased for you i really am,pass my best wishes on to your Daughter and her fiance. All the best Love Rosebud. :) :) :) .

Busy Lizzie.Brilliant news glad all the efforts have paid off at last. Best wishes to the happy couple and the parents.
Lorna.

Hi Bizzie Lizzie, came to this thread very late, Im glad things seem to be working out.
My first marriage was in a registry office and ended in divorce due to ex's unreasonable behaviour. My second husband is Catholic and wanted a church wedding. The catholic church wouldn't marry us unless I had my first mariage annulled and I wouldn't do that as I had 2 children and felt  it wrong to deny a marriage that had produced them.
Our local Cof E vicar was wonderful and very understanding and progressive (this was 10 yrs ago this month)and said that everyone made mistakes and he would announce the banns and see if anyone objected and they didn't. We had a lovely wedding and are fairly regular church goers.
It really depends onthe local vicar's personal thoughts and I am glad things seem to be sorted for you all now.Good Luck with everything
Petra :)

B-L, I've just read all of this thread for the first time, just now. It's my fave sort of tale - one with a happy ending ;D

Wish them both a great day and a long and happy life together :)

Regards, Lishka

Thank you for updating us, Busy Lizzie - I had been wondering.  So glad to hear your daughter & her fiance have found someone to marry them in a local church - hope all goes well.

I wish them  both the very best. Wiht wramest regrads, Dan :-)

a very interesting thread and glad it's working out at the end of the day but just to throw my tuppence worth into the fray.

my mum was a twice a day, six times on sundays going to church gal in her youth, but the church (cofe) refused to marry her and my dad due to him having been married previously to a woman that ran off with his best mate.

they got married in a registry office eventually, but i think, looking back, that was the beginning of the end for my mother, the first crack in her heart was made then.

i have no time for any insitution that can cause that much heartbreak. 

i wish the happy couple the best of luck in their new lives.  they will encounter enough problems along the way without a narrow minded vicar making it more difficult for them at the beginning.

With the ever ending fact that church congregations are deminishing it suprises me that the Vicar can take such high handed measures and thought, I think the church needs all the friends it can get.
Vony

Busy Lizzie, I was only thinking of you about this yesterday so am really pleased it has all worked out.  I am sure being married by a vicar who starts off wanting to marry them will make the day so much more special too, I am really pleased for you all that it has worked out and hope the rest of the arrangements go  more smoothly. :)

Will look forward to hearing all about it - how long do we have to wait, I love weddings!

Thank you everybody for your support and your good wishes.  You have all been great during this. The wedding will be 11th May 2007,  - it sounds like a long time away doesn't it, but when I look at the long list of arrangements to be made, that is when I  start to panic. busy_lizzie

This is something I've noticed over the years; there are excellent vicars and ministers out there, but there are also the ones who seem to go into it out of a desire to be important and have a bit of petty status. They make life so difficult for eveyone around them, and I'm convinced they're one of the reasons why people drift away from church. I could really tell some tales, but perhaps I'd better not.

I am sure your are right Robert.  We are only glad that we have come across a truly Christian man. busy_lizzie