Feeling really low today

[OliveOil]

Sorry to moan but I've been so strong since OH and I split almost 2 weeks ago... It of course, hit me in the middle of a governors meeting, god i hope noone saw me crying but i think there will be a distinct lack of minutes at one point.  I don't think it helped that the head praised one member of staff and completely ignored what I have done and the pressure i am under. The other member really did deserve it but I would have liked to have had a mention, it was as though i had done sweet FA!

OH forced me into changing the tenancy into my name only today and i got an interrogation from the agents if 'i could cope; with the finances and house on my own = grrrr

My line manager is refusing to deal with something and insists i consult the head directly - though he will support me...

pressure is getting too much really... waiting to hear about my job interview yesterday - it went well but feel i could have done so much better.

So all in all, feeling rather crap!

[OliveOil]

[greenscrump]

Don't be sorry, moaning is good for the soul  :) I am sorry though to here that you're having a really c**p time. It sounds so cheesy, but it really will pass, in the meantime raise a glass to the solstice and s*d em all I say.  Take care OO  :) XX

[emmy1978]

Hate, hate, hate AGENTS!!! Grrr. What's your option for goodness sake? Of course you will cope - as you have been so far. Idiots aren't they? Well, mine is!  :P
It's horrible when your work is not recognised, especially when you've been having a rough time and have stuck by your commitments.
Good luck getting the job, I hope you get it as you sound as if you need a change and a boost. If you don't get it then you have to think it's just not the right time.
sounds like you're getting it from all angles at the moment Olive.
Hugs for you - XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX

[kitten]

Awwwww OO, been thinking about you wondering how you're getting along, sorry to hear you're having a rough day  :'(

BTW, moaning is good for you, that's what we're all here for after all, so you can let it all out and feel better after  ;)

Sending you a cyber hug, and got my fingers crossed for your job - you'll get it if it's the right time for you.

Take care, and keep up the moaning, hope you have a better day tomorrow hun  ;)  :-*

[theothermarg]

you are better off without him!!! i have found if it don,t kill you it makes you stronger and you are definatly alive and kicking so show um all what you are made of go for it girl
marg

[coznbob]

Hugs from here too, hope you feel stronger tomorrow...

[OliveOil]

You're all so wonderful.  Still feeling a little sh** but vented to my mum on the phone earlier and to poor Jeannine... so feeling better, not tearful anymore.  Just so much to do, so little time, so much pressure coming from all sides.  Probably need an early night! LOL

[asbean]

A big cyberhug OO, when everything goes wrong at once it feels like s**t, if things go wrong one at a time you don't notice.  You're just vulnerable at the moment, ride with it, you'll feel stronger when you come out the other side (there IS another side).  :) :)

[grawrc]

I'm so sorry to hear about your troubles OO. All I can suggest is - do the things you have to and let the rest take care of itself.

Keep in touch with folk, family, friends and us. Sometimes when I feel suicidal a well-placed kind word or a hug makes all the difference and gives me the strength to carry on. Don't try to cope alone use your support network.

My fingers are crossed for the new job. A change like that would probably do you good. But if you're staying in the present one remember:
Nihil illigitimi carborundum!

I hope today is a better day for you.

Hugs
Anne

[busy_lizzie]

Just came across this, and so sorry OO to hear you are having such a rotten time at the moment. Things will get better and you will rise above this tough time.  Think of it as a new beginning for you, and the new job sounds a brilliant idea. It does you good to moan so don't be afraid to off load to your friends. Lots of hugs! busy_lizzie  :-* 

[tim]

Only just seen this.

Wife & I both come from broken families, so we've seen a bit about it.

So glad that it was others that broke up - not us.

So sad that these things have to happen.

[Jeannine]

Morning Emma, hope you are feeling a bit more settled.It was a good natter we had, it did me the world of good too.

We need to get together and doll chat a bit more.

Take care and stick to the plan,I am here willing you on,

XXXXX Jeannine

[emmy1978]

Looks like Jeannine is taking good care of you Olive! Hope today is a better day for you. XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX

[OliveOil]

Aunty Jeannine is wonderful!  Thanks for all your kind messages.  I've just got out of bed actually. I went into work with a head ache and within an hour it was turning into a migraine, was terribly ill so came home and went to bed - rolled about for an hour waiting for the painkillers to work and have just woken up, pain much relieved but feeling terrible.

Not sure what has brought this one on, stress perhaps LOL  But my chin in up :-)

[cambourne7]

OliveOil,

Having been in a simular position with work i do understand how you feel with your hard work being ignored and your acheivements belittled or atributed to others.

Currently there is a huge hole that you feel has developed in your life, everyone is taking a part of you. Has expetations on you and what you will do. There is no one just for you, no shoulder to cry on. If you feel like i did then its tired and like your on a treadmill which does not want to end.

I found that i was pushing away the people who could help, and without realiseing while you were having problems before your OH left that you have done the same thing.  Perhapse you need to take a break from work reconnect with people and listen to yourself ( something i am only now getting to ). My therapist would say that your migraine is your brains way of trying to make you listen to something its trying to tell you.

I found this forum a great place for support and if you need me i will be there for you as well :-)

Big Hug

Cambourne7

[Squashfan]

Hi OO,
Just wanted to put in my message of support, it's always hard when you're having really crap times but it's good to get it off your chest and that's what this forum is for, not just for complaining about the allotment!  ;D  Big hugs and things will get better for you, hang in there! Cheers, Squashfan

[grawrc]

It's your body telling you to stop and give yourself space and recovery time. You're right there's just too much stress in your life at the moment. Take care.

[coznbob]

Totally agree on the stress, chill out take some time for yourself and take care.

We'll always be around for a chat!

[tilts]

Read through the words...
Everybody's Free
(to wear sunscreen) 
Mary Schmich
Chicago Tribune 

Ladies and Gentlemen of the class of '97... wear sunscreen.
If I could offer you only one tip for the future, sunscreen would be IT.

The long term benefits of sunscreen have been proved by scientists whereas the rest of my advice has no basis more reliable than my own meandering experience.

I will dispense this advice now.

Enjoy the power and beauty of your youth. Never mind. You will not understand the power and beauty of your youth until they have faded. But trust me, in 20 years you'll look back at photos of yourself and recall in a way you can't grasp now how much possibility lay before you and how fabulous you really looked.

You are NOT as fat as you imagine.

Don't worry about the future; or worry, but know that worrying is as effective as trying to solve an algebra equation by chewing bubblegum. The real troubles in your life are apt to be things that never crossed your worried mind; the kind that blindside you at 4pm on some idle Tuesday.

Do one thing every day that scares you.


Sing.
Don't be reckless with other people's hearts, don't put up with people who are reckless with yours.


Floss.
Don't waste your time on jealousy; sometimes you're ahead, sometimes you're behind. The race is long, and in the end, it's only with yourself.

Remember compliments you receive, forget the insults; if you succeed in doing this, tell me how.

Keep your old love letters, throw away your old bank statements.


Stretch.
Don't feel guilty if you don't know what you want to do with your life. The most interesting people I know didn't know at 22 what they wanted to do with their lives, some of the most interesting 40 year olds I know still don't.

Get plenty of calcium.

Be kind to your knees, you'll miss them when they're gone.

Maybe you'll marry, maybe you won't, maybe you'll have children, maybe you won't, maybe you'll divorce at 40, maybe you'll dance the funky chicken on your 75th wedding anniversary. Whatever you do, don't congratulate yourself too much or berate yourself, either. Your choices are half chance, so are everybody else's. Enjoy your body, use it every way you can. Don't be afraid of it, or what other people think of it, it's the greatest instrument you'll ever own.

Dance. Even if you have nowhere to do it but in your own living room.

Read the directions, even if you don't follow them.

Do NOT read beauty magazines, they will only make you feel ugly.

Get to know your parents, you never know when they'll be gone for good.

Be nice to your siblings; they are your best link to your past and the people most likely to stick with you in the future.

Understand that friends come and go, but for the precious few you should hold on. Work hard to bridge the gaps in geography in lifestyle because the older you get, the more you need the people you knew when you were young.

Live in New York City once, but leave before it makes you hard; live in Northern California once, but leave before it makes you soft.


Travel.
Accept certain inalienable truths, prices will rise, politicians will philander, you too will get old, and when you do you'll fantasize that when you were young prices were reasonable, politicians were noble and children respected their elders.

Respect your elders.

Don't expect anyone else to support you. Maybe you have a trust fund, maybe you'll have a wealthy spouse; but you never know when either one might run out.

Don't mess too much with your hair, or by the time you're 40, it will look 85.

Be careful whose advice you buy, but, be patient with those who supply it. Advice is a form of nostalgia, dispensing it is a way of fishing the past from the disposal, wiping it off, painting over the ugly parts and recycling it for more than it's worth.

But trust me on the sunscreen.


.......and have faith x

[OliveOil]

Ah i love those words... My line manager read it to the yr 11 girls the other week in assembly and i found them very touching, true and funny.

Cambourne, my therapist too would say that the pain in my head is the pressure im under and the sickness would be my way of trying to release that pain and pressure... Wish my therapist lived nearer... but I've got you guys :-)

Its only 4 weeks till the summer holidays which I am really looking forward to... I just need to keep going until then.

i'm going down the lotty soon to immerse my hands in the soil - read that soil contains a bacteria that has the same effect as antidepressant, it relaxes and revitalises - now i know why i never wear gloves - though its not fun pulling thistles up bare handed LOL.

Thanks again guys  ;D