moral dilemma?

[sarah]

hi emmy i have only just caught up on this thread, really sorry to hear you are having a hard time up there with your hanger on. i hope it gets sorted. i totally understand your wussedness and  i dont know what i would do (this is obviously a good place to chat about it though - the picture i now have of you hitting old guy over head with a spade ala Ace has given me a giggle.) i was talking to one of the committe members a little while ago and he said that we will all be getting keys to the newfangled gate eventually so that should sort it if they dont do something about him first. good luck.

[sarah]

[emmy1978]

Hi sarah, you've been missing out!! I know, can't wait to get keys, I'm hoping that will sort issue once and for all. See you down there...!

[MrsKP]

I'm hoping this will be the end of it and that he'll join the legions of old drinkers in the local spit and sawdust!

until whenever your banning smoking day is and then he'll lose that as well.   :P  only kidding.  it's a sad situation and no-one like to deprive a man (or woman come to that) of things that have been their lives for years.

times and circumstances change and some people have trouble keeping up.  it will all come to a head one way or another soon enough and then it will all be sorted.  try and get the committee to take the blame though so you don't feel too bad.

;D

[emmy1978]

Thanks MrsKP!! I do feel it's partly the committee that are to blame anyway, as it must have been going on for a while.  >:(

[louise stella]

You have to get him to move on for your safety and sanity.   The days are drawing out and he is likely to want to spend more time their once the days are longer!

This is not good for you children to see.  So speak to the committee and demand they do something - you rent the plot - not a lodger!

Louise

[emmy1978]

I know louise! That's what I thoght too, about days getting longer! Fortunately we've had new fences and gates put up over winter and we'll all soon be getting a key! He's been down this week in the week while I've not been there. Am off down to lottie in a while and hoping that he won't be there!  ::)

[RSJK]

Emmy if nothing is done before you know where you are you will be growing veg and he will be harvesting it for you before you have chance to.

[manicscousers]

I think I would be inclined to refuse to pay rent until something is done about him..it's up to the committee, although I feel concerned for him, they wouldn't like him to sit smoking and drinking on their plots  >:(

[kt.]

C'mon emmy. Give him the good news and show him the exit. You'll get nowhere pussyfooting around my good lady. Be firm, stand your ground and be abrupt to tell him to get off and stay off. Sometimes you gotta be cruel to be kind. Go for it girl. When you post next I hope its to tell us you told him  - and he has gone......

[kitten]

He's been down this week in the week while I've not been there.

This sounds well dodgy to me, you defo need to be firm and get this sorted - if this guy has a serious alcohol problem your personal safety could be at risk any time he's 'visiting' your plot (i know he's an old man, but still).  I don't mean this to sound nasty or to scare you but you've got to think of yourself (and your little 'uns), no matter how sorry for him you feel.  Good luck & take care x

[emmy1978]

O.k peeps, here's the update. Went down today to do more couch grass clearing and pick up my spuds. spoke to plot manager. He has seen him and told him "it's absolutely not on" and he's not been back.
So, I think that's it! Maybe I'll go down there and find a big gap where shed used to be!!
I've nearly cleared my 'bed' for this year, just the rest to cover and kill off now! soooo excited. Thanks for your support on this one. Has to be said it took the shine off things slightly, feeling bad for him and annoyed at the same time. Was very tempted to follow Ace's suggestion of popping him on head with spade, but he was quite a nice old fella really!  ;D ;D ;D

[kt.]

halleluljah! about time missus. If you happen to see him back just remind him of  what he has already been told. ;)

[tricia]

Good news Emmy - now you can feel relaxed when tackling the couch grass  :). Hope you have a wonderfully successful year and that your shed doesn't do a disappearing act  :P.

Tricia

[emmy1978]

kt, I feel bit better about telling him to do one now he's been 'officially' told. You must think I'm utterly spineless but I felt so sorry for him - I know it's his own fault, and lotties are gold dust round here where a developer will build on a crisp packet if it's left on the floor too long, so he really should have kept it together!
Still, it's over and like Tricia says, got my first year growing to look forward to. eeeek, so excited!!  :D ;D :D ;D

[louise stella]

You've got enough to bother with - I too have a couch mountain!!!  All bagged up and waiting to rot!!!!  Evil stuff!

Don't think you've seen tha last of him yet though somehow!

louise

[emmy1978]

Gaaah! Don't say that Lou!! :'(

[Andy H]

Hmmmmm may see him again but have to be firm. Sad though. Good luck on your 1st year growing, its great fun and relaxing.
Imagine freezers full of organic.

;D ;D ;D

[kitten]

Great news emmy!  ;D  At least you know you've got the committee's support so if he does venture back (and he may well do so, at least once more?) you can reinforce the message and not feel too bad!  Good luck for your first year, look forward to seeing some piccies of how YOUR plot is coming along over the coming months!  ;D

[Amazin]

Don't worry about how you'll cope if he comes back -

Just wait till your first seedlings show. Not since you had your little 'uns will you feel so protective - you won't have a problem telling him where to get off!

;D

[cornykev]

Good luck Ems and happy digging. ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D