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I usually find people on here extremely helpful and very generous but i need to vent my spleen over something that has happend, back last year i offered to send a member some books to borrow on slo cooker recipes, i had not long bought these books for myself and paid postage out of my own pocket and was happy to do so.
I was contacted in december to say they had finished them and would send them back, i heard nothing for ages and after pming and emailing got a message to say they had been returned to sender and that the person in question would resend them.
i still have heard nothing and its almost april, i am really really p*****d off now, they cost me money, they belong to me and i was trying to help someone out.
theperson in question hasnt even had the courtesy to reply to my messages
will make me think twice before i do any such thing again  >:(

That's not on!  Perhaps you should name and shame them!

You should absolutely name and shame them, having recently been on the receiving end of some very kind generousity (Comfrey from lovely tonybloke) this forum shouldn't let miserable selfish peoplelike the one you mention on  it!!  >:(

I agree that you should name and shame if you have tried to get in touch with the person. I too have had some lovely comfrey from the lovely Tonybloke. It's such a shame when folks take advantage of your good nature.

I know who it is...Debster and I have spoken about it......but I will let her name and shame if she so wishes.....pity I didnt live closer to this person or I would go and have a word in his shell like!

its a shame when something like this happens and i do understand why you feel so frustrated when your good nature appears to have been taken advantage of,  but can i please just sound a word of caution against naming and shaming... unless you have a very good reason to think this person has ripped you off then you cant rule out the possibility that there may be a good reason for the non return of your books. the person may have become suddenly ill...or worse. you dont know what goes on in other peoples lives and while i do understand why you may want to name and shame i would think carefully first.  hope its ok to say that.  :)

yes sarah its perfectly alright to say that and when i was first contacted to say they had been returned to them spending time with family was mentioned. what i am annoyed about is not the loss of the books thats a chance i took when i sent them i realise that however one message since 1st December is just not good enough, that is what has really peed me off.
as i said it is bad manners what happened to common courtesy?

If this person is around, give him/her 3 days to respond to you (cos after all some of us really do have things, some unpleasant, going on in our lives atm & things slip.)..BUT....I'd say, moniter their attendance here, then, after three days.....name'n'shame. Nothing else for it, unfortunately :(

(think Sarah's said something similar while I was writing this..)

the person in question hasnt been on here since 12th feb, the only thing is i do think they may have relatives on here which is why i have been a little reticent to name and shame,
but then its not rocket science to find out who anyway

but please i dont want to put anyone off swapping etc cos every other person it has been my pleasure to swap with etc has been amazing its just a shame it only takes one to upset the apple cart

Sorry to hear this Debster.  Unfortunately the forum is just like real life, there are the kind, generous people and then there are the rest.  What's happened to several swap parcels recently is just another example.

If you still have their address, send a registered letter demanding return of the books by a fixed date or you'll put the matter in the hands of your solicitor.

BTW the advanced search facility is great!!!!  ;)

sadly i dont think i do have their address

Quote from: debster on March 28, 2009, 19:51:32
sadly i dont think i do have their address

try networking peeps who might have sent seeds?

(If, frinstance, the peeps et choclit, I'd deffo have it 8) ;D - not that I could imagine our Choclit mates being so thoughtless  :o)

Quote from: debster on March 28, 2009, 19:51:32
sadly i dont think i do have their address

When you took a look at their profile to check when they were last active did you notice their website link. On the contact page of their website is a PO box address, phone & fax numbers & their company email address. That gives you several other ways to contact them if you have misplaced their home address & they are not responding to emails sent to the email address listed in their profile.

You know, more I think about this (you mentioned "bookS??) I don't think it would be name'n'shame to just ask on a separate thread even for this person to contact you? Loads of us have put out FAO messages & it's still really possible/probable even that this has really been put on the back burner (slow cooker even), what with other things going on + the dearth of bloomin Post Offices nearby. If this person has friends/rels here also there's more chance of the message getting through.

Regards.

no i didnt notice that Baccy Man thank you will give it a try

Hyacinth if you search my threads i did that on the 6th of jan because the person in question i had pmed cos it showed them on line at the same time as me and i was ticked off cos they never replied
nice eh? how many chances does a person need?
by the way that was when they got in touch to say they were with a neighbour returned to sender and they were gonna repost em

Whew! That's a bit of a facer. Only took a few minutes to find your polite request for him to get in touch with you, and I'm sure other peeps can do the same, if you're reluctant to ask him again here :-\

Might anyone have his address, from Swaps, etc. they would forward? As I understand it, Debster,  in all good faith, sent him some new books to look at for recipes. "Do as you would be done by" springs to mind. It really seems a bad show. :(