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We have Havelock, an adult male (11yrs old) recycled from the shelter. Apart from the goldfish we was our only pet. Downstairs have a cat, so do upstairs and all the neighbours around us. Our garden is a thoroughfare for all of them. He was obviously mistreated - possibly by a boot-wearing man - in his previous home.He likes his cuddles on the sofa, likes women over men, likes gravy but not the meat. He knows what he likes, essentially. He also tends to tolerate the other cats even when they come into our flat (ground floor). We don't encourage this as it's his turf and our food budget. He's a wuss, which is one reason why we chose him.We did some thinking and decided to get another cat. This time a kitten so he would still rule the house. Today is day three of Lemmy's life with us.Day one Havelock hid under the bed and we kept him in all night. Our thinking was to show him that he's still top cat and we would never want to replace him. He slept on the bed as usual. We are keeping the bed at night-time as his domain as is his habit. Fuss and love met with a ridgid back and neck and it took some coaxing for a purr.Day two he came out and was all growls, yowls, spitting and complaints. We allowed him in and out as normal. He's still eating properly and was more relaxed, but not completely. He was in all night on our bed before heading underneath the bed when OH got up. He still wanted fuss and love but wouldn't settle.Day three and it's still yowls & growls. We picked him up again (and have been doing so repeatedly as is normal for us) and he was still yowling (he's avery verbal cat, always has been) but he was also trembling. This is really worrying us as it's not in his nature.I know it's early days and we're not forcing the issue but we can't help wondering if we completely misjudged him. We know very little of his previous life so are only able to theorise situations. We are both of a view that if you take an animal in it's for life; they're not toys.Our plan is to keep on keeping him in at night with sole domain of the bedroom but try to coax him out of his fug piece by piece. We're very fond of Havelock and are so pleased that we chose him, but would hate to lose him - even emotionally - because we misjudged him and what may happen when introducing a new kitten.P hasn't had a kitten for over 20 years and me for about 15 years. The theory is there but not the practice.