Topic: Farewell from Derekthefox

[ken (69)]

Hi Derek...your posts have always struck me as cheerful, kind and sensible...not need to depart.

[Derekthefox]

Just to keep the record straight, so peeps don't start misreading things.

I am not receiving abusive pm's.


Derekthefox  :)

[wardy]

Righto  :)

[madmum]

do you really have sangria on your cornflakes?
and if so is it all made from things you grow on your lottie?
 ;D ;D ;D ;D

[Derekthefox]

Thank you Madmum, that was an extremely well timed joke!

I don't eat cornflakes, but I do enjoy sangria, alas not allotment grown . . .

Doh! just spotted it . . . you are keeping me posting !

Derekthefox  :)

[madmum]

you just can't help yourself
See, you'd miss us all too much to leave us

whatever you decide, keep on enjoying the sangria!

[Doris_Pinks]

In the words of a song
"oh-oh won't you sta-a-ayyyyyy  just a little bit longer, please please sta-a-ay  say you will, saaayy you willllllllll!   
Good singing voice huh! ;D

[wardy]

I think we should write a poetic appeal to Dek and I will start it off. 

Derek with the geetah avatar,
Your cornflakes and your san gree ar   .....

[Palustris]

I had just about changed my mind about giving up on this site, but now I think I will join Derek and depart for pastures new. Would prefer Derek to stay, would really like to hear how he and his son get on in their Marathon venture, but if people want to leave so be it. Sad day in more ways than one.

[Derekthefox]

Irrespective of my own personal decisions Eric, I have always seen you as part of the furniture (in the nicest, kindest way !), and I would prefer to see you stay as someone to hold the fort!

I would presume that all the inspiring comments passed to me, also apply to you Eric, so may I beg you not to be too hasty . . .

Derekthefox  :D

[Twospot Ladybird]

Not you too Eric  :-\

 :'( :'( :'( :'( :'( :'(

[Yellow Petals]

I think there is something not quite right when a member decides to leave due to another member's comments.  At the end of the day we each have differing opinions which should be respected.  We may not always agree with each other (I agree with everyone on gardening matters, such is my gardening knowledge lol) but opinions should be respected until the day they become personally offensive or perhaps just too irritating to bear?

It's certainly not a nice feeling to be "singled" out by another member on any such forum (this has happened to me before) and as much as people tell you to rise above it, ignore it etc., it still has the "I'd rather not be here" effect.  The easiest choice is to leave and never deal with any of said peeps (there's that word again) again.  

Surely, rather than leave such a lovely site, Eric & Derek (catchy) a better idea would be to address the problems?  If it's a one on one thing surely a small PM to Dan explaining the situation might bring a resolution as he may become a mediator (or not, I just don't know) and iron out the wrinkles?  Just a thought.  If it's a problem with the forum/members themselves, maybe sharing the problem/expressing the opinion with the rest of us might help to put it right?

Is it not worth a try before packing up and leaving?

Sam.

PS  Derek, you know you don't really want to leave because if you did, you would have just gone and not tested the waters first  ;) :)

And Eric, I'd be very sad to see you leave!!

[Derekthefox]

You have said a lot there Sam.

On the issue of leaving, this morning I was totally committed to doing it. The method was to put my house in order, and enable those people who wanted to keep in touch to have the opportunity. I expected two or three people max.

I was obviously wrong, both in my method, and my estimate!

I have never stopped trying to deal with problem areas, but sometimes one feels that the battle has been lost, and disaster management becomes the issue. Again I may have got this wrong, I don't know.

I suppose at the very least, I have inspired an interesting discussion, and the response has been staggering.

Derekthefox  :)

[Yellow Petals]

You have said a lot there Sam.

I have never stopped trying to deal with problem areas, but sometimes one feels that the battle has been lost, and disaster management becomes the issue. Again I may have got this wrong, I don't know.

It's a shame that forums don't come with the "ignore" facility that we luckily get with email and Instant Messaging. 

Anyway, if this thread has helped you in your decision to stay or to go, at least it's been worthwhile?

Let's hope Eric isn't off to pastures new aswell :(

[Derekthefox]

Yes, Sam, this thread has definitely enabled me to make my mind up. I will post on that subject later.

Thank you for your stimulating input.

Derekthefox  :)

[Twospot Ladybird]

Hope that means you're staying now. I'm not trying to get an answer out of you yet, I'll wait for your new thread  ;D

[Annadl]

I nearly miss the posts for 1 day and this happens!!

I am such a newbie and have enjoyed so much of your feedback and advice to me Derek.

You can't go Derek, nor you Eric.  You are both major contributors on this site and it would be sad to see you go.

We have had quite a few newbies lately.  It just shows how wonderful this site is.  We all want to be a part of it!!!

We (I) don't want to be without you. :'(

Anna

[BAGGY]

Just got in from work and looks what's kicked off !
Don't you dare go you two or I'll throw my toys out of my cot.  Seriously, with your wealth of knowledge and helpful manner of explaining things (without laughing at a thicko that got 'stuck' in the chat room eh Derek?), what use have I ?  You are both assets to the site and we can't afford to lose you guys.
Bags xx

[wardy]

Without Derek you could still be in there Baggy  ;D    I wondered what that knocking was  ;D ;D

[BAGGY]

Are you laffin' at me ?  :'(