I am not sure how to handle this,

[Jeannine]

or even if I should..

As most of you know I got a really smashing gift in the mail the other day ,it came straight from the company in the UK who makes them with a note from the company which told me what the sender had written

Although it had no names on it,suffice to say it was  clearly indicating that the gift was from  a group of folks on A4A who had clubbed together and bought it as a thank you for sharing seeds. It was lovely feeling to receive it and was walking on air as you can imagine.

I posted a thank you with the words of the enclosed note which I mentioned above.

I was totally stunned to receive an e email from a member who seemed to think I should know the gift was not from a group of people but just one, I was quite distressed to receive it and thought it was a mean letter to send  to me, if it was true and the person sending it wanted me to think it was from a group why would someone else fell obliged to enlighten me. The letter went on to say I didn't have many friends as I thought and that I had  just 1 and that I was old enough to know there was no Santa Claus. It then asked me if I had worked out who sent it. I could think of no reason to send me this letter that had a nice explanation.

I was quite cross as it seemed to me it was intended as mean act, presumably to spoil the joy of receiving it. I was also concerned that if the person who I thought organised did in fact send it  alone that was her business and she obviously wanted it that way. I thought was again  mean to suggest revealing  who it was.

I answered and said what my opinion was and requested the person did not contact me anymore.

Later that day I got a card with many names in it, presumably from the folks who had contributed to the gift.I acknowledged the card on the forum and got a message from the organiser explaining how and why she had organised it..I of course immediately thanked her publically and also in private.I also thanked the card sender for the lovely hand made card which was a gift in itself.

I got another reply from the person who sent me the first e mail, this time naming the person who sent it and again claiming again I only had 1 friend.I was told I should thank that  person in a proper way. I again wrote back and said please don't contact me anymore, I again thought it was mean and wanted no part of what was happening.  I was very offended to receive a communication suggesting I needed reminders  of what  good manners were and again I repeated what her motives were and please to leave me alone.I also said I felt I had a lot of friends on the forum.

I have had yet another one today, this time accusing me of needing to accumulate a lot of cyber friends which  she said was sad  if I needed to do that. She also made reference to some books I had mentioned I had written in a post last week, she  demanded  the titles of the books I had "claimed " to have written and pointed out I had ignored someone elses request.

I had put a post on the forum a few days ago about the books so I have actually answered, but  why this person seems it is her place to keep correcting me on what I should do I don't know. I have not answered the last letter and felt I would write this instead.

May I add there is no requirement for me to answer a post on a forum, or indeed no absolute certainty that I even read it. I do have a few folks on my ignore list and don't always read every post. I posted a comment on my books after receiving a couple of requests via PMs from friends. Clearly the person sending these mean e mails to me doubts the authenticity of  the books,and perhaps even the words in the memo that came from the company with my gift which I posted,  neither of her views are of any interest to me at all. Had I not wanted to answer  about the books then I would not have done so, why I would  choose not to answer is my business and no one elses, I don't feel obliged to offer proof on enter into a discussion about them . I have mentioned the books  on other occasions  without all this detective work going on around them

She also said in the last e mail that the gift was sent by a thoroughly decent person who felt sorry for me. How can this be anything but mean and why is she doing it.I am aware that not everyone is my friend on A4A, that is normal in any situation and as an adult I can deal with that as I am sure can most folk, but if I am to believe the person sending me these letters I have only 1 friend and she feels sorry for me. How can that be anything other than something sent to hurt me. I try very hard to be non judgemental but am having real difficulty this time.

I am sending a message to the organiser of my gift telling her this letter is here and I wish it to be clearly understood,it was a truly wonderful gift which I believe came from the bottom of a very big kind heart and to rally others to tip in makes her a wonderful friend to have and I am proud to call her that, she has no need to explain anything to me beyond what she has  already done. I believe her implicitly. Sadly I cannot say the same thing about the letter writer.

I have not named this person as I feel that would be mean of me but I would like publically to say please don't contact me anymore, it seems requesting it in private doesn't work and I really don't want anymore.

I am not sure if sending this is the right thing to do, a few days ago I would have thought it was not as I will not have anything sullying the wonderful gesture of kindness that I received, but now I feel it may be the only way to get it to stop. The person I am talking about knows who they are that is enough.

The post may get removed and if Dan in his wisdom feels it should then so be it, I just hope the letter writer reads it before it goes.

Please would you just leave me alone now. I bear you no ill feelings but do  stop writing to me.

XX Jeannine

[Jeannine]

[nilly71]

Don't bother reading any messages sent to you by this person. There has been a few nuts stirers on here even in the short time i've been here.
You know you're a good person as do most who visit this forum.

Neil

[springbok]

Jeannine we are all blessed to know you.  Cyber friend or not you have done lots of things for folk on this forum!!

This person that is writing to you obviously is very jealous that you have received a bit of attention.  Attention that you have rightly deserved for all your kindness over the years.

Whoever is writing these letters:

1)  Get a life

2)  I know from personal experience that you have no idea what you are talking about.  Jeannine has been one of the most generous folk on this forum, and I have been one of those that has received from Jeannine in the past!!!!


Jeannine, just ignore the letters hun.  I hate CYBER BULLIES......and whoever it is, report them and get them removed!!!.

WE LOVE YOU xxxxxxx


3)

[lottie lou]

jeannine you have more friends than you realise on this forum and the moment I and others received the email about how we could show our appreciation for your kindnesses, we all jumped at the chance to be included.

[lottie lou]

of course Santa exists - haven't you seen that film Miracle on 42nd street o whatever

[coznbob]

This is bloody ridiculous, am actually quite angry >:(

Jeannine, I suggest that you ignore everything this bitter and twisted person has sent you.

Sounds to me like a very jealous response to something that Grannyjanny organised and was meant to be a heartfelt thank you from people who have benefited from your generosity.

If I was feeling compassionate, I would say this person was either ill or very lonely. However I am not, it is a amazing hateful thing to do and quite frankly if it was me I would name and shame them so people could choose whether they would interact with this person or not. All credit to you for not doing so ( and to be honest its not much of a surprise that you haven't ).


Take care Jeannine, don't let this person get you down, they really aren't worth it.

Corinne x

[Admin aka Dan]

All,

Am looking into this, have locked the topic while I do.

Thanks

Dan