Hi all, :D
Have got terminal cancer of the stomach. So will only be able to post when feeeling strong enough.
Great board, great peeps, love your allotment, but please get away from the old style of *they owe us a living*. And,the old refrain, *the corpie will look after us*. They won't.
The allotments are in your hands, fight for them.
*rant over*
merv
Chair, North West Region. National.
Merv, bloody hell! I am at a loss and don't know what to say. Our thoughts and wishes are with you Merv.
You rant all you like, we all do from time to time, altho I am useless and end up ranting about something completely different!
Thinking of you Chairman.
Merv you have my respect to come here and tell us all you have some courage. ;)
Father in law refused to believe he has cancer even in the hospice would not face it. :-[
Can they operate or treat you in any way? so many drugs on the market. :-/
Cyber hugs for a brave man :-*
Love Teresa
Merv
Mental power respect mahn.. dont know what to say,,, cept I think
it was yeats? who said...
if you want to find god.. then go dig in your garden..
cant be sure of quote or author, am not religious myself but know that by playing a part in nature we feed the spirit, and may your
spirit keep you strong on your journey.... thoughts are with you..
Oz
Merv,
So sorry to hear your news! :'( The very best of luck for you and your family.
I'm with EJ here, rant and rave all you like. It helps, I know.
Kate
Merv
Mr Chairman, keep smiling and be strong. Our thoughts are with you.
I am sure we will all fight that little bit harder for you.
Les
Hi Merv
Me mum has had myeloma for 5years now, originally they gave her months - we're both convinced that her fabulous garden has done alot to keep her going and her spirits up.
Keep positive merv and much luv
M xx
Hi there.This is the place to be for support and saying whatever you want at any time.They are a wonderful lot and we will all be routing for you.
Take care.
Hi Merv.It's all been said but i too will thinking of you.
HI Guys, Â :)
Thanks for all the kind thoughts and good wishes.
Yuppers, there is nowt to be done as it's in the liver etc, etc. Â came on like wild fire, ok this summer and now like 1/2 my weight. (what a way to diet, hee he he)
Going to have a look at the Hospice on Tuesday; l hear  it's a neat place.
Keep it going; and anyone who says they can't affford to give Dan a fiver has got to be joking!
Get paypal in Dan and you'll get mine. Â ( Ummm...... may be a bit of a hurry on here.... :P
Merv, what can I say that hasn't been said by all the others, except I will be thinking of you.
I have a friend who has been fighting cancer for the past couple of years and she is very positive and her garden has been a great source of help to her.
Keep thinking positive Merv and you never know, miracles could happen :) :)
God bless
Pat
Merv, kisses n hugs
Thinking of you Merv.
Ten xxx
brave man
sending warm thoughts.
so sorry
courage
XX
suzy
Hi Merv
Some hospices are good the one dad in law went in they could take their pets saw a dog and budgies and cats you might be able to take comp? keep in touch with us if only for the cyber hugs you will get loads of them.
Do you have a choice or just one localy?
Hows your family coping? ours went just like dad total denial thought he would come out fine then went to pieces afterwards, they said there was so much they wanted to say and never did total regret.
On a lighter note sister in law did a parachute jump to raise money for hospice made loads of money her way of saying thanks to all. It frightened her so much she said never again.
Good luck for tomorrow thinking of you let us know how you got on cyber hugs
became a new member today merv, just read your letter and am very sorry to hear about your illness, god bless you merv and all the best :'(
Merv, You brave and lovely Man. We are all with you with Prayers and Positive thoughts. Stay in the light and keep in touch with the garden. Mother Nature is a powerful source of healing and strength. With Love, busy_lizzie
Merv take care of yourself and stay strong my sister is fighting cancer so i know how hard it is for you
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>>>>>>>>>>>>>> vibes to help you fight it!
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Good luck
Good days can you keep in touch! We would very much appreciate your input We are all there with you!
Kate.
Sorry if you feel this is any way inappropriate!
Not inappropriate at all hun.
Thanks for all the kind thoughts and all the good vibes :D
Good days and bad days, just hope you find more good days than bad.
When the sun shines, keep looking out the window!
Kate :-* :-* :-*
Merv, I am so sorry to hear your news, it took real courage to say it. I wish you all the very best.
Since joining this site I have been amazed at how many new allotmenteers there are out there. Young and Old we will all stick together.
Thoughts are with you.
Piglet.
Thanks guys, Hi piglet.......I'll keep you posted.
Monday I developed Ascites,which is basically fluid retention (swollen ankles, abdomen) nothing they can do, as the cancer is advanced. I look like like RJ's Avatar above. hehehe
Rats! have to buy some shoes that are 3 sizes too big
:D
Not that I can really walk, but what the heck!
byeeeeeee....
Dear Merv........moved to tears by your courage and fighting spirit, keep fighting! :D
Dear Merv What can I say that hasnt been said. You are a brave guy and I hope that the sun shines for you always.
Dear Merv you are an insperation to us all.
I was just thinking if I was you I would have a party and invite family friends round get them to bring a bottle. Something nice you can all remember in the comming months.
Cyber hugs for a lovely man
xxxx
Loads of hugs. Know is probably difficult but we are all still here with you! :-* :-* :-*
Like to echo MB's message Merv. Hope you are able to look in occasionally and catch up with things here. Just to let you know our thoughts are with you. God Bless.......Pat
Amazing, I was driving home from collecting the boy from school and I was thinking to myself, must post to Merv, say hi, say we are all thinking of him, and look , great minds huh. Well Merv, as has been said before me, we are all thinking of ya.
Oh blimey - only just seen this. keep on fighting Merv.
Sending out lots of good vibes to you...
Me too Merv! :-* :-*
Hi Merv, I only just joined the site yesterday which is when I first read about your news. I've been thinking about you all day because I wanted to say something and I didn't know what to say.
As another person on the planet I'm so sorry to hear your news, if it's any consolation I was reminded to share acts of love rather than anger today and I guess this is the point of it all.
I'm gonna have a bit of spiritual tree hugging for you tomorrow and send my vibes through the roots.
Goddess bless you, matey x
Only just saw this - just wish I could say something helpful........Tim
Dearest Merv sending you so much love and prayers please god we could find a miracle for all cancer sufferers.
We are all thinking of you God bless you Mr Chairman.
Lots of cyber hugs to you everyday. Rosebud.
I only saw this a few days ago also and even being a newbie I did not have the courage to say anything. But I have to say I do feel for you and your family even though I don't know you.
Roy
Only Just read this.
Keep strong.
Love and Reiki Blessings.
My thoughts are with you and your family.
Alan
I can't add anything that hasn't been said. However, please accept a cyber hug.
Our prayers are with you Merv.....God bless......Alan
Was just thinking of Merv the other day, and wondering how he was. Where-ever he is, hope he is sitting somewhere in a garden. busy_lizzie
This is the first time I've seen this too - am so moved by all I've read.....my heartfelt prayers are with Merv and all his loved ones.....loving thoughts, Maggie
Its sad to think that by now we have most likly lost Merv.
A man who touched our hearts so brave to tell us all his problem. I hope the end was peacefull for him.
I wish him what I wished for my mum:
A large garden upstairs where they can grow all the plants they like for free.
Cyber hugs Merv
Only just seen this post :'( :'( :'( :'(. Wish there was something I could do to make a difference.
Jesseveve and all
The local hospice is normaly the last resting place and some patience have no family befriend someone inside if your strong enough.
Or get your lottie sec to do a bring and buy sale of lottie goods etc and raise some funds for your local hospice every little helps.
Our hospice you can buy a light bulb on there Christmas tree each year I get two all helps.
Go and see what they need even if you end up fundraising.
Thanks Teresa, I don't know if I'm strong enough to be there to support someone but I plan to phone my local hospice tomorrow to see if there is some other way I can help, like you say fund raising or something. Thanks.
Yes,Teresa is right - there are many other ways in which to support your local hospice. Not everyone, for whatever reasons, cannot actually, physically or emotionally get to or attend a hospice.
For years, my own dear Mum used to make pretty cards and other little needlework items 'til her failing sight made this impossible, then would organise sales in the sheltered housing scheme she still lives in now in Chelmsford. Also, both my parents (altho I've just lost my dear Dad), my brother & I all contribute towards a weekly 'lottery' Farliegh Hospice run by them to help raise more funds and every Christmas I sell raffle tickets.
Wherever dear Merv is, let's hope & pray he's surrounded by love.
Sleep in heavenly peace Merv,awake in gods garden of peace and beauty. :'( :'(
Rosebud, what beautiful words,
Hot potato, nice to know what others do to help I wish I could go inside and support but would end up in tears like when father in law was in one for his finial days.
Jesserve, good luck for tomorrow let us know how you get on.
If we all do a little something in the memory of Merv who touch so many of us here. His passing something good will come of it.
Well I phoned my local Hospice yesterday and after speaking with them for a while it seems the best way I can help is to make donations, I would not be able to volunteer time (for example working in their charity shop) because I don't have regular hours and days that I can commit to. So I have decided that I'm going to get together all my gardening stuff that I no longer use, seeds, tools, books etc. and any gardening bits that I can scrounge from family and friends and sell them on ebay. The money I make from the sale of these things I'm going to donate to my local Hospice. If I manage to raise some money this way then I may have a sale on Ebay once a year. What do you think?
Jesseveve thats great,
Do check with ebay they do charity auctions and you can regester as a charity seller may be the fees will be free?
also state in the add that all funds go to a local hospice may be in you members profile?
I am sure many here will send you seeds I for one
pm me you address
What a guy, took time to reply to us...