With OH's 40th approaching I have been listening attentively for MONTHS and trying to plan a wonderful surprise for him, in secret. One phone call to mummy-dearest and all those hours of listening and then researching have gone to waste. She bought him 'my present' within moments of directly asking him what his heart desired. Now I'm back to square one on the 'thoughtful surprise' :'( Just wanted him to have a moment of awe and wonder to enjoy. Now he knows he'll have it and I'm left with nothing to give :'(
Oh thats a bit of a blow Gerbera, sometimes its a good idea to be in touch with relatives and let them know your plans. I do sympathise, I hope you get him something else he really wants ;)
He has you what else can he want. ;D ;D ;D :-*
There must be another thing he wants.
How about a day racing a car or driving a tank or something like that .
In WH SMITH they sell all sorts of great packages for special occasions.
Good luck with whatever you choose. ;D
How about a wing walking present for the mother in law ;D
Naughty Petengade ;D I hope you can think of something nice for him it must be so disappointing for you.
June.
I am twice his age but would love a days sailing from Sparkes Marina on Hayling Island, just down the road from him :)
That sounds nice .
June.
How's about a hot air balloon trip..... I'd love to go up in one but the hints not been taken yet by the Mrs ::)
Take youre mother in law Bungee Jumping. . . NO STRINGS ATTATCHED
Quote from: daveylamp993 on March 19, 2012, 12:50:05
Take youre mother in law Bungee Jumping. . . NO STRINGS ATTATCHED
:o ;D :o
This one is pure love.
On his 50th birthday I gave John a pretty little box with 50 small gold cardboard hearts, I wrote a note to say whenever I was nattering or complaining he could hand me a heart and I would instantly stop. I truly meant it.
He still has it.....................he has never used one.
XX Jeannine
QuoteHow about a day racing a car or driving a tank or something like that .
I took OH tank driving for her 40th... she loved it... :-*
Quote from: Jeannine on March 19, 2012, 18:39:57
This one is pure love.
On his 50th birthday I gave John a pretty little box with 50 small gold cardboard hearts, I wrote a note to say whenever I was nattering or complaining he could hand me a heart and I would instantly stop. I truly meant it.
He still has it.....................he has never used one.
XX Jeannine
That is just lovely! x
For my OHs 40th last year I got him a helicopter flying lesson in Bristol, followed by three nights away in a fancy hotel in Devon - he loved it I have never seen anyone so shocked and surprised when we turned up at the private airport ;D ;D
Jeannine - that idea is wonderful....not only would he love the humour and sentiment behind it, but I'm sure he'll use them frequently (unlike most of the gifts he gets from his mum! tee-hee!)
Well he is 73 now, the box is still in his study on the desk, but he has never used one, of course I am a super special wife and he is a very sensible husband ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D
XX Jeannine
;D ;D ;D ;D
Thank you Jeannine. I have been on ebay and bought a lovely miniature wooden chest and 40 little wooden hearts to fill it. I'll give then to him on his birthday (in late May).....and will probably have them all back by my birthday in September! But I know he'll love it. Such a beautiful idea. :-*
Quote from: daveylamp993 on March 19, 2012, 12:50:05
Take youre mother in law Bungee Jumping. . . NO STRINGS ATTATCHED
Ca you take min too unattached of course.
y mother in law wants to gatecrash our evening together for hubbys birthday (which is tomorrow).
OK 45 isnt an 0 birthday but having 4 year old twins and never having many babysitters, I decided on a candle lit dinner for 2 using Hestons cooking at home recipes as he loves Hestons food.
So over a week ago when she was here for dinner she was trying to weedle plans out of me and asked if she was invited over to dinner. i politely said no, especially if i was working, which I didnt know if I was at the time but I am. So she said well if you dont have time to cook i'll cook and bring something over. I politely declined.
So not having luck with me shes pestered hubby daily since thursday, asking to come over. I have politely told hubby that I have something planned that does not include her. A message which he has passed on but that hasnt stopped her calling daily since. She called today and hubbby told me, so I picked up the phone and ccalled her and carefully pointed out I was doing a candlelit dinner for TWO, with heston recipes..... her answer was Oh!
She of course has left it too late to post hubbys card as she was expecting to run hubbby down with her persistant asking. So hubbby will be lucky if he gets a card from his mum for tomorrow.
She only had to call and I would have told her nicely what I had planned. But no the cow wanted to gatecrash
Quote from: daveylamp993 on March 19, 2012, 12:50:05
Take youre mother in law Bungee Jumping. . . NO STRINGS ATTATCHED
No 'like' button on here ;D
I'm a MIL and do whatever I can for my DIL's and SIL's and would be really hurt if they all thought like this. We aren't all bad and I'm sure you find us useful sometimes!!
X Chas
I am a Mother in law.to four, I get on famously with the three Sons in law.
But...........The Daughter in Law is from hell ,and its all her making all of it. I have three lovely Grandaughters who I have never been allowed to see. all b/cards etc have been returned. she is truly a woman from hell. and believe me it is only her
June.
Just remember girls,you too may be a ma in law some day.
It is us that produced all those lovely husbands ;D
So True!!!
X Chas
I agree. Nothing is worth falling out over. I have 3 sons and never put them in the position of having to agree with wife or mother.
Oooh heck....I stirred up a hornets nest here didn't I?!
I actually love my MIL to bits, but was just a bit aggrieved that she'd put the dampers on my plan for OH's birthday treat! Needed an outlet to vent and was rewarded with Jeannine's lovely suggestion for a gift which is truly priceless.
No offence to other MILs out there. I do appreciate mine 99.9% of the time (which is more than I can say for my OH!) ;)
Dont get me wrong my MIL is good sometimes. We do also see her and cook her a 3 course dinner at least every other week, and were over loads to help her when she broke her wrist before xmas.
Hubby has also just fixed her computer which she had wrecked,
I actually see far more of my MIL than I get to see of my own mother as my MIL is closer in distance to me
She does give us the challenge of feeding our kids copious amounts of chocolate which we disagree with (we have requested she doesnt) , and even the boys agree they would prefer a penny for their money box, as they are brought up by both us and preschool with the knowledge that certain things are not healthy for you in large amounts. I have to say preschool hammer this but I dont think its a bad thing.
I have also been told in an hour of need (my car back window smashed in day before holiday) that no she cant help and I should no way phone hubby. I disagreed on this one and thought he would at least like to know that "houston we have a problem"
when she is good she can be very good but when she is bad she is horrid, and whiny and persistent and all woe is me.
thankfully we managed to have a nice candle lit dinner for two in peace tonight, and hubby was well impressed with his wifes abilities at recreating Heston Bluementhal recipies.
Oh and she is coming to dinner on friday and I have made enough of the starter and the dessert so that she can sample some of the menu we had too.
Sometimes us daughter in laws do like a little break from our mother in laws to nurture our relationships with the husbands that they created
I by the way have twin boys and if I ever do my future daughter in laws what my MIL has done to me this week they have full permission to shoot me. :o this is because I wouldnt want to think I had upset my DIL and felt I had intruded on a momment they had wanted to be special.
I had two lovely Mother's in law, I loved them both .sadly they have both passed away now.
June.
Quote from: luckycharlie on March 20, 2012, 14:32:54
I'm a MIL and do whatever I can for my DIL's and SIL's and would be really hurt if they all thought like this. We aren't all bad and I'm sure you find us useful sometimes!!
X Chas
No offence but I'm a little slow today and couldn't work out what 'MIL' meant. I guess my autocorrect wanted to put an 'F' on the end. Sorry for being crass but I got it in the end ;D
Quote from: bridgehouse on March 21, 2012, 11:04:44
I had two lovely Mother's in law, I loved them both .sadly they have both passed away now.
June.
Me too...one has passed away but my ex-MIL has dementia and doesn't remember me, well she might if she saw me but not on the phone. Sadly she doesn't remember my sons, her grandsons either.
That's sad, my husbands mother was like that .she rolled her husband and two son's into one person. so sad.
June.
Yes that is sad.
My eldest just turned 40 and we all had a great party.His wife organised it .No poor son being pulled this way and that.
I doubt any bloke appreciates his wife and mother being at loggerheads.Many Men will want to defend their Mum and their wife so imagine being in the middle of that.
In our family Birthdays tend to be a family affair.........I see my lads about once a month on average so don't think I step on anyones toes.