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Title: aint felt like cooking.
Post by: gazza1960 on January 25, 2012, 09:29:17
having got the news 2 days ago that my dad aint coming out of the CCU at st peters its now up to me to keep a stiff upper lip and look out for my mum and sis who are staying with us till ....whatever happens....happens.

its hard to look for the right words here and sorry to babble on.......mums being good and now dad is on open order in the ward......its tuff to sit opposite him and not discuss it.....god weve talked about everything and nothing the last 2 days....and of course when his BP and heart numbers look good you always doubt whether the med staff have cut him off too early but after 10 years of cardiac help they have been brillaint.
anyway..........large sigh.........have a cutta tea and take mum to see him in a mo  !!!!!!!!

Gazza
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Post by: grawrc on January 25, 2012, 09:38:23
Really sorry to hear this news, Gazza. Stay strong for your family. You'll be in our thoughts and prayers. xxx
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Post by: betula on January 25, 2012, 09:39:02
Thinking of you and the family.............big hugs x
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Post by: Melbourne12 on January 25, 2012, 09:41:01
You have our sympathy.  It's always a very difficult time, and not much that anyone else says makes it much better.

At least you've had the chance to have had those final conversations, which is a comfort.
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Post by: shirlton on January 25, 2012, 09:43:11
Sorry to hear about your trouble gazza. It seems that so many of us on here are having a tough  time of late.  Hugs to everyone
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Post by: goodlife on January 25, 2012, 09:52:49
Don't know what to say really...always very difficult time. I'll send you some positive energy instead..
Take care..
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Post by: manicscousers on January 25, 2012, 09:57:23
Hi, Gazza, all you can do is carry on, I'm glad you have these moments with your dad. Look after you, too x
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Post by: Poppy Mole on January 25, 2012, 10:06:21
Thinking of you
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Post by: pumkinlover on January 25, 2012, 10:11:05
Sorry to hear your troubles Gazza. Not an easy time for you but you will be stonger than you think.
Pop on here if you wish, but we will be thinking of you and your family.
x Anne
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Post by: Squash64 on January 25, 2012, 10:39:47
Sorry to hear this Gazza, I'll keep you and your family in my thoughts.
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Post by: macmac on January 25, 2012, 10:45:31
So sorry to hear this Gazza,sending hugs x
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Post by: Spudbash on January 25, 2012, 10:47:04
We are with you, Gazza.

Spudbash  :)
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Post by: brownowl23 on January 25, 2012, 11:11:11
Take heart in the fact that you are able to have last conversations with him and whatever happens can happen for him with everyone around him. I know that is nt much consolation but.....

I had instances with both my parents last year with heart attacks and blood clots where both of them nearly went before i'd have had the chance to have any last conversations.

Tough times for you all but you will be stronger than you think and you will loook back on these last few days with a sense of having a chance of a dignififed closure.

Take care
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Post by: antipodes on January 25, 2012, 11:12:38
Thinking of you gazza. My brother in law has just had open heart surgery, they can do marvellous things these days, we don't realise how important opur heart is to us  :'(   :'( 
Sorry to hear your news,
Antipodes
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Post by: lorna on January 25, 2012, 12:12:18
My thoughts are with you and your family. Have recently been going through similar, my brother-in-law (88) was given hours to live on the 9th Jan. he didn't pass until 18th and the last week he never had food or fluids just morphine. At times like this I hate being 100 miles away from my big family. My sister and Ted would have been married 60 years in October.
I know you will have the strength to be there for your Dad and your Mum.
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Post by: rosebud on January 25, 2012, 14:25:48
Gazza, so sorry to hear about your Dad, i am glad you are having a little time with him & are able to talk about anything!!.

My sister passed away 4 days before Christmas, very sudden a heart attack.  I am still trying so hard to deal with it.

So make the most of every moment  i am sure you are.
Sending love & hugs to you all.
Regards Mary = Rosebud.
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Post by: gazza1960 on January 25, 2012, 18:25:43
Thankyou thankyou thankyou for the kind and considered words.

Ive just got in with mum and although dad had a dreadful morning we were advised to prepare ourselves, yet this afternoon he was eating short bread and sucking on Ribena I had taken in and yud think nothing had happened....therefore this "open order" phrase isnt as instant as I sumised....thank gord  !!!!
Working as a volunteer at the hospital I do get to assist people in distress,but im no Chaplain and I did get to speak to our chaplaincy lady who was brilliant and will be on hand to provide words of solace if needed.

But the meds are still sticking with their prognosis,that said, I have just read your replies to my mum sat behind me and she thanks you all for encouraging words.... :-\

Gazza
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Post by: Mrs Ava on January 25, 2012, 18:49:13
Thinking of you and your mum.  Agree with others, cherish these conversations.  I lost my darling daddy 11 years ago this August, he had a heart attack at work, I was the first to the hospital, but he had already taken the leap from the mortal coil to the next.  I am cyber sending you much love at this hardest of times.
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Post by: Hi_Hoe on January 25, 2012, 20:01:21
All our prayers are with you Gazza.

God bless you all.



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Post by: small on January 25, 2012, 20:20:53
Thoughts and prayers from me too.
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Post by: Duke Ellington on January 25, 2012, 20:37:46
Very to hear this Gazza.  I hope you find the strength from somewhere to support your Mum and sister.

Duke
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Post by: SamLouise on January 26, 2012, 23:12:09
Sorry to hear you're going through the wars, Gazza.  Do remember to take care of yourself also at this time and as others have said, enjoy the conversations.  Best wishes to you (and I did smile at the comment re your dad eating his shortbread! :))