Juat off to bed as we are toying with the idea of hopping over the US border tmorrow, 8) 8)
A...might not go ???
B ... go and be home late tomorrow :-\
C.. go and have so much fun we may stay a few days, ;D
Starting tomorow I have finally had to agree to go into a wheelchair so it is a way of getting
used to it, really I don't mind it is no big deal :-X
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The hell it is not, >:( nuts, knickers ,bloody hell and assholes, the stupid retarded thing that it is
I am just 16 in my head why can't my moronic body remember that,,the puss ridden heap of crap that it is...and I absolutely refuse to have a knitted lap blanket!!! :o :o
I am fine now, I'me cool. ::) I feel so much better now.
Have a good couple of days of peace without me ;D
XX Jeannine :o :o :o
Hi Jeannine.
No words of comfort I am afraid. I just wanted to let you know we (myself & John) are thinking of you. We find you such a fascinating "Broad" & love your intelligent, amusing & informative posts.
If you go over the boarder I hope it works for you as you want it to. I had an inkling that there was something going on as you just didn't seem yourself but I put it down to worrying about your John but perhaps my powers of observation were right.
Take care both of you & again thinking of you.
Janet & John xx
Whatever you decide to do Jeannine I hope you have a great time. :)
Oh Jeannine.......I do understand how you feel. It can take time to come to terms with drastic changes our bodies go through.
It took me years to accept I could no longer do the things I was used to, I was a landscaper for heavens sake....then suddenly I had heart failure. And since then i have progressive heart disease, every 6 months I can do less.
It is so frustrating, because I look the same on the outside, and like you, Im still a kid in my head.
You havent said if you need the wheelchair permanently or if its just for this journey or occasionally. Whatever one it is, its still a change of lifestyle and something new to get used to.
Have this hug from across the pond Jeannine, it may take a while but acceptance will come.........most of us have or will have to, make big changes as our bodies age. Those that dont need assistance in any form....well,I am jealous but also happy for you.
I hope you enjoy your stay across the border........ ;)
Star xxx
I will miss your posting always enjoy what you have to say. I hope your trip works out for you It is not easy having to come to terms with such difficulties. You are such a dynamic person.
sorry to hear this, it must be hard for you to have to accept less independence from your legs...
...try and imagine the wheelchair is a wheelbarrow, you are still 16, and you are being pushed around by "your also young at heart" sweetheart!... may make it a bit less ardous?!
mat
Jeannine you will always be 16 in your mind and that is the most important part, just think of all the cheeky things youll be able to get away with and have a ball it doesnt change the person you are so get out their girlie and knock em for six
grow old disgracefully i am XXXX
and much love to you you could start a new trend with some form of knitted or crocheted blanket go on i dare you ;D
Sorry about your news - how about a woven lap blanket from pandanus leaves, or whatever? ;D Go on, set a new fashion! And wish you all the best.
Jeannine - it is probably not yet cold enough for a lap blanket, but don't forget you already have one! Remember?
I know how you must feel about the wheelchair busines. Luckily I am still able to drive and as long as I can park real close to the supermarket with my blue badge displayed, I can still do my own shopping.
There are lots of things I can no longer do either, but as long as I keep reminding myself that it won't be all that long before I am 80, I can accept my enforced quiet lifestyle and enjoy watching the antics of the birds on the birdfeeders.
I hope you and John both enjoy your trip Stateside.
Tricia
Good luck for your trip, hope you both enjoy. Do get an electric wheelchair. When late husband bought one it made life so much easier for me and he said he felt so much more in control.
changes are always tricky, but organising a holiday for you both will I'm sure help :)
B less your hearts all of you, and you all thought I couldn't swear :D
Actually I didn't go in the end, it is going to be a daily maybe, today something cropped up that made t a bit too late to bother going, but we will go in this next week.
The rotten chariot is sitting there looking at me and I am glaring back at it, I will have to give it a name.
Round the house I can cope ..just, when out I use my elbow crutches and struggle, but a walk through a mall is out of the question and even the supermarket creams me and then I am bad for three or fours days, so I am giving in to pressure from "Him that I Humour" I know he is frustrated as he can't help me be mobile and he has begged me to put the rotten thing in the car so we can at least try to have a real day out..so I have humoured him and agreed.
But as you have gathered I don't like it.
I remember some years ago when I had an accident that put me in a chair, I found folks spoke to the person pushing it rather than me, we picked up some sewing supplies one day, John paid, the stupid clerk commentated on what we had bought and said to John"ah, it is nice when they can do something to be occupied" she then smiled at me,so I dutifully popped my head on one side, hung my tongue out a bit , nodded a couple of times and said aahh..
John nearly choked me when we got to the car!!! I should have drooled a bit at her as well.
It makes me mad that folks patronise like this..
Being in a wheel chair is so big deal, I don't mind really what is there to mind about..tons of folks have them and I am sure they have all met the idiot clerk too. I just might not be so nice another time ;D
I have always said when the time came I would get a motorised one and really jazz it up, we need to look into it but I have been researching a kiln all day.
My special lap blanket is over the back of my sofa with a teddy sitting on it Tricia,still get weepy when i think of the day it arrived, it isn't going anywhere.
Funny thing, I often sit here and crochet the blooming things for the oldies in the home down the road.
So thank you all again,, after a few trips I am sure I will get over it..as long as I don't bump into the clerk again..
This getting old thing is not for me, and I don't ever remember signing up for it. I am still the pro dancer, competition swimmer and grass track motorbike rider in my head..I am not kidding either.
It needs a name though..mmm
Thanks gang.
XX Jeannine
Oh babes, a massive hug is at this moment flying over the atlantic to totally envelope you.
My mum had parkinsons for 25 years and she fought off having to go in a wheelchair it was only in her last 5 years she finally agreed to allow it to be brought along "in case she needed it" so i know how you must be feeling. I find it offensive that people assume that your brain disappears as soon as you sit in one and that you become less of a person. I spent a day in mums chair to prove a point to her and i found it really hard. But from your posts I feel that i have become to know you a bit and you are a strong woman.
I have a saying "don't let the b*rstards grind you down", keep strong and our hearts are with you.
Kxx :-* ;D
Jeannine I am thinking of you, it msut be such a hard decision, but you know you are still entitled to fun in your life and if going out with the crutches is too difficult then maybe the chariot will bring you more freedom in a sort of way, especially as Lorna says if you can get a motorised one so you can take yourself off :) :) more of a scooter type one perhaps? If it brings you more ways of getting out and about and enjoying life it might be worth it? Good luck and take care xx
I do think that people react better to people with motorised wheelchairs than those being pushed. I do not know why. I supposed they know that if you are not nice to them they can ram into your shins. ;D
Surely in the end it is better to do more with wheels than restrict what you can do. I certainly would not let other peoples misconceptions limit your activities. If people say inappropriate things they are at least trying to help - they just got it wrong. If you smile at people and start chatting to them they will soon realise that you are still there.
My husband finds talking difficult so he has a card which he gives people to explain the problem and we find people become much much more helpful I would suggest a sign that says somening like Hi folks my brain is still functioning ok its just my legs that have gone on strike.
I would suggest next time you make the effort to pay.
Think of yourself as Ben Hur in his chariot and invade the supermarket. Veni vidi vici. Ok that was Julius Caesar.
If there is anyone who can change their attitude to wheelchairs I am sure it is you.
Four wheels on my wagon and I'm just rolling along
Though other people stare at me
Im singing a happy song.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wLtiS6fPUFI
So sorry to hear about the wheelchair, can't have been an easy decision. I think you will have given it much thought and although it is not the outcome you want you will make the very most of your circumstances. You know you are the same person sitting or standing, so don't let anyone get away with treating you other than with the full respect you and others deserve.
If you get a motorised chair I can see you organising races! That competitive streak is bound to come out somewhere ;D
Hugs x
Quote from: Jeannine on August 17, 2010, 03:28:52
...................... grass track motorbike rider in my head..I am not kidding either.
I was saddened to read this too Jeannine but I've got this impish vision of you getting out the leathers again, giving the chariot a really good makeover and doing 'wheelies' in the mall ;D ;D ;D
Hugs
Ninny x
Whilst on holiday recently, I met the loveliest lady (she owned one of the hotels we stayed in) and she too was talking to another guest about her failing back and knees. I think they were talking about yoga and accupuncture etc etc (I checked out of the conversation at this point, lol) but she then said, 'Well, at first I felt bitter, angry or upset about the wretched things (knees) but when I stopped to think about it, these knees have walked me around for nearly sixty years, they've taken me scuba diving in the caribbean, mountain walking in Canada, trekking in Africa, swimming, cycling and generally carried this lump around so I say, ok, I'll give them a rest, they've earned it!!' I remember thinking what a nice (not sure that's the right word) way too look at it but I bet it took some time to reach that conclusion! :)
I agree with Tulipa, although not an easy decision, it might actually bring you a little more freedom in a way xx
Hi jeannine,
Sorry to hear that you are struggling. Its a bugger having bits of your body making life difficult. Hope that the freedom you get to go further esp if you can get an electric one will compensate in a small wayfor how it is making you feel. good luck plan some days trips to places youve not been for a while and like you say personailse it and turn it from the cold device into your freedom chariot!
Dont tolerate rudeness from idiots or let them get you down thats the one things about getting olde that can be fun , you can be just as rude back when its to much and get away with it i!
Can you put a window box on it?
love sunloving
Ok,you lot, I give in, I shall enjoy it
I will decorate it and give it a "go bag" maybe it would be useful..
Nicking cuttings from fancy gardens,in the go bag they go.. I could have snip scissors, zippies ,blimey if I wore that robe in the picture above I coud carry a trowel and spade..
Now I shall have to wear a big hat I think..and a picture emblem to say I have joined the purple hat brigade.
Ok so I design a lapblanket that defines who I am.. the mind boggles,will think about that one
Flag to say who I am.. Canadian, and British too plus John's Scottish one, I would have to have the stars and stripes as it is almost my second home.
A built in brolly, lights,and a hooter,,I gotta have a hooter
DVD player for when I am stuck in traffic....
Maybe a wee wee little battery operated fridge for cold pop and milk.. oh milk, myabe I should carry tea bags as well as they are awful if drinking tea out here.
They give you it with little strings with labels on, they are myseriously hanging out of the liquid..you pull carefulyl..well you never know what you might get off the end of a bit of string stuck in something you can't see well..sugar too,well there may be room to attach one those mini stoves and I can hang a kettle off the back.
Got to do it in style.
Will think on what else.... this could be e very important mobile home I am fixing up.
XX Jeannine
Thats the spirit Jenny ;) I was really worried for you when I read your posting yesterday and have been thinking of you all day yesterday. Although we dont know each other , by reading your posts and replys to others I can tell you are a really special lady with a lot of personality and courage. If you see beyond the chair and see that it will lead you to more painfree independence, give you that stroll out in the sunshine that your poor legs have denied you for so long. And as for nicking cuttings well it will be so much easier now as you wont have to bed double to get to them. ;)
Take care and let us know how your brilliant customizing is going
Lindax
Thank you, Kitty Lady.. I knw it is Ragdoll but it makes me too wistful when I think..
Ninny..leathers, ny racing bike leathers were a size 4, would that I could :D :D
Gosh we used to boogey all night and go to work the next day..I didn't go to bed last night at all, was busy trying to help John fix his pooter, finally had Norton having a go via the phone, by the time that was done it was 6am and hardly worth it. He is snoring on the sofa of course.
Still I managed to do a lot of finger tapping, I think I have found the right kiln now.
XX Jeannine
Enjoy this trip, Jeannine, and many more to come.
The chair sounds grim, but in the end it is just a necessary tool for doing things. A bit like the glasses, the hearing aid and all the other items that enable us doing what we want to do.
Wish you well and hope that once you experience new and fascinating sights and sounds, you'll soon forget you are using your wheels.