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Title: Sad Night
Post by: busy_lizzie on October 11, 2004, 23:16:25
Just wanted to share with you the news that my Mam died  tonight.  She was 94 and had alzheimers, so her passing is a release but still a sadness.  Sat with her all afternoon and tonight at 8 pm she breathed her last breath.  Like to think of her winging her way with superman to  rest and peace. busy_lizzie  
Title: Re:Sad Night
Post by: Mimi on October 11, 2004, 23:21:54
Lizzie, what can I say but I am so sorry for your loss.  We lost our beloved dad in May and my heart still aches.  My heartfelt sympathies to you and your family.
Title: Re:Sad Night
Post by: Ozzy on October 11, 2004, 23:30:07
HUGE HUGE HUGE hug for you busy_lizzie  

is sad to lose, is sad to let go, is hard finding the right words, I keep thinking that 98 is a great age which it is, but i know we would want it to be 99 100 101 and so forth never wanting this day to come, and now that its here, I send you my compassion and my empathy and will think of your mum and superman up there and will be thinking of you also.

Ozzy

:-* :-*
Title: Re:Sad Night
Post by: Kerry on October 11, 2004, 23:36:17
oh busy lizzie- my sympathies and feelings go out to you. you were very brave to sit with your mum, and i'm sure she knew that you were there for her. i hope that you take care in the days to come, and i think that you were brave to post this message also.
keep coming back for more cyberhugs.
Kerry.
Title: Re:Sad Night
Post by: Mrs Ava on October 11, 2004, 23:36:49
BL, our thoughts are with you at this saddest of times.

There is a new star in the sky tonight.
Title: Re:Sad Night
Post by: Jendaffodil on October 12, 2004, 07:46:36
Lizzie, my heartfelt sympathy to you, I have been in the same position and really feel for you.  My best friend lost her Mum last week to alzheimers too so we have been talking a lot.  It will be a comfort to you and her to have been with her at the end and looked after her.  Cherish your memories, remember her before the disease took hold, she has had a wonderful long life.  Take care.

Jenny
Title: Re:Sad Night
Post by: Moggle on October 12, 2004, 10:51:00
 :'( :'( :'(
BL I never know what to say at a time like this, but I'll try cause your post made me feel so sad.

My thoughts are with you and sending you big cyber hugs.
Title: Re:Sad Night
Post by: aquilegia on October 12, 2004, 11:27:04
Huge hugs to you and your family. I'm sure you helped your mam by being there with her when she passed on. words just seem so silly and inadequate at times like this.

group hug.

aqui
x
Title: Re:Sad Night
Post by: CotswoldLass on October 12, 2004, 13:02:18
Dear BL,
Feel for you so much. I'm sure your Mum was comforted that you were there. Alzheimer's is a terrible thing. Hope soon you will be able to remember you Mum as she was.
Will you plant something special in her memory?
Take care,
CLx
Title: Re:Sad Night
Post by: Doris_Pinks on October 12, 2004, 13:08:58
BL, so sad to read your post, my thoughts are with you.  Sending you big hugs DP
Title: Re:Sad Night
Post by: Roy Bham UK on October 12, 2004, 16:02:59
Sorry to hear of your loss, God bless.

Title: Re:Sad Night
Post by: Wicker on October 12, 2004, 18:15:27
Have been thinking of you all day B/Lizzie - my Mum suffered Alzheimers for many years tho it was pneumonia which officially caused her death.  In truth it is a release for you all and in time you will remember your Mum as she was in happier times.
Title: Re:Sad Night
Post by: Ragged Robin on October 12, 2004, 20:09:04
 Just like to add my thoughts to the others winging their way to you........R

We dont remember days, ....we remember moments..

Remember those moments.....
Title: Re:Sad Night
Post by: Jesse on October 12, 2004, 20:22:52
Huge hugs from me too BL, sorry to hear of your loss. It was nice that your Mum had you by her side during her last moments. Take care.  :-*
Title: Re:Sad Night
Post by: MagpieDi on October 13, 2004, 16:48:11
Dear BL

So sorry to read about your dear mum.

Sincere condolences.

Thinking of you.

Di
x
Title: Re:Sad Night
Post by: Fingle.... on October 14, 2004, 11:01:06
Death leaves a terrible hole in your heart.
Try to remember the good times and dont forget that she wouldnt want to see you so upset.

Go and sit with nature down the lottie, youll soon see God there, and know everything is alright

Condolences
Title: Re:Sad Night
Post by: Val on October 14, 2004, 18:06:26
Like so many others you have my heartfelt condolences. We went through the same as a family, a very sad time. God Bless.x
Title: Re:Sad Night
Post by: frozenseas on October 16, 2004, 13:51:53
I'm so sorry to hear your sad news. I posted in September, looking for a poem for my nieces funeral. People were so kind, and sent so many lovely poems. Sadly I didn't find the one we were looking for until last week, but it's so lovely I hope you don't mind me sharing it with you. Thinking of you, and your family, take care, Jackie. xx


Remember Me
Remember me whenever you see a sunrise,
Remember me whenever you see a star,
Remember me whenever you see a rainbow
Or woods in autumn colours from afar.

Remember me whenever you see the roses
Or seagulls sailing high in a sky of blue.
Remember me whenever you see waves
shining in the sun, and remember,
I'll be remembering you.

Remember me whenever you see a teardrop,
Or meadows still wet with the morning dew.
Remember me whenever you feel love
growing in your heart, and remember,
I'll be remembering you.

(author unknown)

Title: Re:Sad Night
Post by: Andy H on October 17, 2004, 23:57:54
So sorry to hear about your loss, We too suffered in jan this year when my mate and Beckys dad took the same route. It hurts still and always will but it is the laughs and good memories that help in these time. Alzheimers is so unkind and for me, a hard one to deal with, my thoughts are with you, Take care.

Andy & becky
Title: Re:Sad Night
Post by: Gardengirl on October 18, 2004, 11:07:36
What can I say that hasn't been said by all the others BL.  I am so sorry for the sad loss of your Mam.  I have lost both my parents years ago now, but they are forever in my thoughts - just remember her as she was before she was ill.  Lots of cyber hugs to you.

Pat
Title: Re:Sad Night
Post by: Hot_Potato on October 18, 2004, 20:36:21
I'm so sorry to hear your sad news B.L. my heart goes out to you....I lost my darling Dad aged 86 just over 6 weeks ago and it still hurts terribly......but we must remember all the wonderful times and there were many......

Condolenses to you and all your family.....

Thought you might like to read this poem, which we had at my Dad's service....

Miss Me, but Let me Go

When I come to the end of the road
  and the sun has set for me,
I want no tears in a gloom-filled room
  Why cry for a soul set free?

Miss me a little, but not too much
  and not with your head bowed low
Remember the love that once we shared,
  Miss me, but let me go.

This is a journey we all must take
  and each must take along;
It's all part of God's perfect plan,
  a step on the road to home.

When you are lonely and sick of heart
  go to the friends we know.
Bury your sorrows in doing good,
  Miss me, but let me go.

A big cyber hug from Maggie
Title: Re:Sad Night
Post by: Roy Bham UK on October 18, 2004, 21:02:57
That was a lovely poem Maggie thanks for sharing ;)
Title: Re:Sad Night
Post by: rosebud on October 18, 2004, 21:47:22
 So SAD to hear your news BL please accept my deepest sympathy.
God will be taking care of your beloved mum now.  God Bless.
Title: Re:Sad Night
Post by: Pixie on October 21, 2004, 10:44:53
I want to give you a big hug as I thinks hugs are completely under rated. Hugs are warm reasuring safe things.

I cant find words easily but I wanted you to know my thoughts are with you

Sam
Title: Re:Sad Night
Post by: busy_lizzie on October 22, 2004, 13:01:28
Back on the Board again and have just read all of your messages. Tears filled my eyes as I read each one.  I can't thank you all enough for your words of comfort and the beautiful poetry too.  I am so moved and touched by you all.  It does help to feel all of your warmth.

The funeral was last Monday, held at my house, - so after a week of vicars, funeral directors and flowers, memorial photos, etc, the house has been heavy with gloom.  So today I cleared everything away, and opened all the doors to let some fresh air in and this afternoon I am off to buy some bulbs to plant in the garden and the lottie. That is not to say It won't take some time to come to terms with things, losing anybody close is a big deal, but life is for living and my allotment awaits me. Thanks again to each one of you who took the time to post messages, I really appreciate it.  Love, busy_lizzie