I have enjoyed being a part of this forum for the last 3 years and have made many good friends. Today I have been accused of being racist and I really did not intend any offence to anyone and must apologise if I have.
Shirl, that is ridiculous. You stay right where you are. The reactions on that thread are bonkers. Ignore it and carry on being one of the valued posters here.
Here, here!
There are lots of threads I simply don't contribute to for that reason.
You stay and keep posting!
?? I hope you are joking when you say "Bye to my friends". As Ceres has said .. stay where you are. I have always enjoyed your posts and your sense of humour.
Don't go Shirl.
You were not racist.I do not believe anyone was.Some people delight in reporting stuff to the moderator as they are so PC they see fault in everything.
Stay and fight your corner and do not let these people have the satisfaction of thinking they have driven you out, :)
Some idiots are far too quick to use the term "racist". Ignore them, stay here... as for those who go running to Dan when they manage to find something that they can misinterpret - he's a busy guy with better things to do... grow up.
It's a pity that 2 people in particular chose to get all aggressive when others were simply stating their views. Shame on those 2 for escalating it to this - learn how to play nicely or play somewhere else!
Dont go anywhere shirlton. I havent seen the post but in my experience these sort of things happen on internet forums all the time - It's difficult to express humour/sarcasm/irony and posts can be taken in ways not meant by the poster ...then people over react and it normally ends up with someone invoking the nazis! Then it all dies down and we start again. Post on shirlton!
Did you mention Nazi's, Nick? How dare you insult the memories of so many who have fallen, on this day of all days.... concentration camps, my grandfather... blardy blar... etc etc etc.... :) :)
I'm going to complain to the moderator right away. ::)
How dare you mention concentration when I have ADD. Admit it, you're having a go at me aren't you!
please don't stop posting. I enjoy your posts and your sense of humour.... all the ladies would miss ower pin up boy Ower Tone LB
shirl,thank you for apologising,i was offended by your comment,and a few others ,but i accept you didnt mean any harm by it,lets just all move on now hey
Come on Shirl, buck up. Im sure youre not a little wildflower that wilts so easily. ;D
Put it this way Shirl; in a room full of 100 people 5 wont like you, but you dont leave. You ignore those 5 and carry on having fun.
Not everyone will like everyone, its a fact of life so unfurl your petals and get back to enjoying this forum ;D
what lovely sentiments Ishard :) wish I could have expressed my thoughts in such a nice ways...take heart Shirl think of yourself as a beautiful rose that we can enjoy
I don't post often, don't have much to say! But don't go because I love reading your posts, garden centre exploits, ower tone, I could go on and on.
I second Elvis' sentiments. Please stay
no way can you leave girlie we love you and that is not just cos of tone the pin up please stay if you dont we will come en masse and drag you back to the forum ;D
Pleeeease stay, Shirl!
Don't you Dare leave. >:(
I you go then that person as won.So please stay.
i think you should stay too, you are a long time forum member and have good things to say and have many friends. you give sensible advice about growing veg, which is what most people come here for.
I will leave, if shirlton leaves.....like that means a lot!
What do you think you're doing, Shirl?? ;)
you and tone had better stay, or else I'll send Cornykev up to sort you out!! ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D
Now Shirlton, don't be a numpty. People here like you very much and personally I feel you didn't write anything untoward and have nothing to apologise or leave over. I myself had a moment about 2-3 years ago when somebody offended me and I donned my drama queen crown, threw a hissy fit and left the board. About two months later I really regretted it and sheepishly sidled back in ;D ;D The only thing you need to know is what these replies are telling you :) Now drag your derrière back where it belongs :)
When you talk about my freinds that is what this site is about Friends with a mutual love of growing things. If you have inadvertently offended a friend then a friend will take your apology on board.
For me it has been a joy to find a world full of like minded people. Do not even think of abandoning this site.
Lets all give Shirl and our Tone a hug with a song .....
Mine's gonna be '' Never gonna give you up, never gonna let you down ''
Rick Astley, ;)
floss xxx
Don't you dare leave, Shirl. :'( :'( :'( :'( :'(
Flossy started this, so here goes -
"Stop! in the name of love
Before you break my heart
Think it over....."
Appologies have been made and accepted
Looking forward to reading you again soon Shirl and ower Tone
1066
Don't leave Shirl, your posts often make me smile and I'd miss you.
"If you leave me now, you'll take away the very heart of A4A.... ;D"
hehehe love the song idea.
The run away train went over the hill and she blew,
the run away train went over the hill and she blew,
the run away train went over the hill, the last we heard she was going still
and she blew ew ew ewew.
If you really do go, you will end up keeping going, and that aint good.
my contribution:
There ain't no sunshine when she's gone
Its not warm when she's away
There ain't no sunshine when she's gone
she's always gone to long when she's away........................
And by heck we we need shirls sunshine today
If somebody knows Shirl in rl or has her mail address please point her to this thread.
Its no good posting anything if shes not going to see it. :-\
Hopefully she will be attending the NGS open day tomorrow so we will tell her then.
Thanks Neil ;D
Shirl really needs to see how people think of her, once shes calmed down of course.
You're welcome.....are you coming by the way ?
I have emailed Shirley and asked her to look at your posts, I hope she does.
Steve
Ive got to try and persuade hubby to bring me to the open day as any sort of plant is my domain not his. :-\
Hubbys from central London and thinks the grass cracks in pavements are the countryside and any plant above 5 inches is a triffid and needs to be strimmed!!!
You cant blame him really with a dad like he had, and I was actually with his dad when he said this;
Imagine the scene, farmer leaning over a gate looking at his crop of yellow rape seed.
Farmer says " Lots of rape in the fields this year."
Father in law replied " The dirty barstewards, they ought to castrate them all!"
I couldnt breathe for 5 mins cos of laughing so hard. The farmer muttered under his breath "Townies Huh!" and wondered away. Father in law had no idea and I had to explain, once I could get my breath back of course. ;D
Anway if Im not in Derbyshire in fact, I am in spirit.
Thank you for mailing Shirl Steve, she really does need to see this thread. :)
its been a while since i said anything much on here but i do read the posts regularly some people i e shirl and many others are a great source of help and also amusing (as in friendly) posters i find it so sad that due to PC etc that shirl feels forced to quit, sighing here its quite hard to say what you think without starting a huge debate etc do any of us wish to become in a diluted way like the poor people involved in the book of the wildswans by tung chang?? extreme example i know albeit as mentioned above diluted for what its worth shirl i say please do stay many would miss you and you have the right to speak/type unjudged or rather without worrying if your words will be misread i have always said and always will there is no intonation in text/type speak soz for the sermon hope it helps
flower
Don't go Shirl :o :o :o.
Janet
I'll encourage her to read this lot, she's supposed to be at our Open Day, and if the weather doesn't buck it's ideas up I may have a lot of time on my hands. ::)
Oh my word! I am truly speechless. I thought that I had made a few friends on here but I honestly didn't think that so many people cared for me. I wouln't purposely offend anyone. I do love being apart of this forum and it has become a big part of my life. It has weathered me through quite a few tough times. I will stay but I think that in future I will just read some of the quirkier threads and bite me lip.Thankyou all so very much for your kindness.
Have you got your scuba gear out for a trip to Derby?? :)
If the weather improves even a little we will be there. You must remember that us old fogies are quite delicate ;D
Phew, so glad we're notlosing you, shirl!
Hopeyou all have a great day in Derby, whatever the weather- you can all shelter in Deb's shed!
Shirl I've only just seen this post and the end of the prawn heads one, you saved me PM ing you, just be yourself and don't worry about others, some on here are starting to get on my tits but it takes all sorts on a forum, but I have been following some of the posts lately and certain peeps do seem to look for an angle to start an arguement. ??? :( ;D ;D ;D
Well, Shirl's back where she belongs, the sky's brightening, the cats (and dogs) have stopped peeing on us here in Brum - hope the same's in Derby and you all have a great get together 8)
RESULT!!
I am glad you have decided to carry on posting.Enjoy your day.Take a brolly.You will be fine.Oh and a mac and wellies. :)
Good to have you back, Shirl. xx
Ower Tones just gettin out of the shower so that must mean that we are going.
Not been on here for a couple of days....just read through this thread and glad to see that you are rightly staying put .
Nowt rong wi reyt folk Shirl.
Good on ya Shirl, just because the PC brigade gorra mardi lipponn, no need for you to bite yours we like you just the way you are midduk. :)
;D ;D :-*
Quote from: elvis2003 on June 06, 2009, 10:24:54
shirl,thank you for apologising,i was offended by your comment,and a few others ,but i accept you didnt mean any harm by it,lets just all move on now hey
Prig
well, after today, you know our views, shirley..it was brilliant to meet you and Tony, we did have a larf, didn't we, rain and all ;D
Hi Shirl , good to see ya, wished I could have been with you and ower tone and manics,
would have loved it -- and it stopped raining ! :o
floss xxx ;D
Quote from: flossy on June 07, 2009, 18:19:31
Hi Shirl , good to see ya, wished I could have been with you and ower tone and manics,
would have loved it -- and it stopped raining ! :o
floss xxx ;D
no, flossy, it didn't, we were all splashing around having a great time ;D
Ooooh like ducks to water -- kicking puddles, just had a roll of thunder that nearly
took my socks off ! This weather is 'avin a laugh ' monsoon this morning, heat wave
this arvo and now....... it's all gone a funny colour ! ;D
floss xxx
Quote from: Hyacinth on June 07, 2009, 10:56:49
Well, Shirl's back where she belongs, the sky's brightening, the cats (and dogs) have stopped peeing on us here in Brum - hope the same's in Derby and you all have a great get together 8)
RESULT!!
just noticed this, good to see you, Hyacinth ( little, waving emoticon man ) ;D
Not had time to follow the dodgy posts over the last week but truly glad you are back on Shirl and enjoyed your company today :).
I do wish people would take their soap boxes off this forum - I love to see diverse opinions aired sensibly and without people playing the racist/sexist/politicist or any other cards which try to hound out individuals.
Love your posts Shirl - you are so funny, don't let anyone intimidate you and keep posting!! ;D
Looks like I missed out on a good larf today, one day I might just turn up. ;D ;D ;D
Don't think I can travel that far on my bus/tube/train pass or bicycle. Shame the weather was not too kind for you, but hope you all had a good day.
My sentiments entirely pippy.
Welcome back Shirl and don't threaten to leave us again we'd miss you and tone too much.
Glad you had a good day today, wish I lived nearer would love to have gone and met you all to say nothing of buying some plants and sitting in the shed ;D
I've just read the discussion where rascism is supposed to have occured and just wanted to give you my support. I'm pleased you've decided not to leave the forum through another obvious case of pc gone mad, it's just like my 3 yr old boy being taught baa baa white sheep as well as baa baa black sheep so as not to be rascist! Hopefully one day we'll go back to the stage where people can take a joke for what it is.
Pleased you're staying Shirlton!
Hi Shirl :D..........Im still here too, just not as often. So glad you decided to stay ;D ;) :-*
It was great you made it... without the A4A crowd it would have been a real washout... must have been at least a dozen of us... almost a social gathering... :)
Quote from: Melbourne12 on June 07, 2009, 16:44:13
Quote from: elvis2003 on June 06, 2009, 10:24:54
shirl,thank you for apologising,i was offended by your comment,and a few others ,but i accept you didnt mean any harm by it,lets just all move on now hey
Prig
how dare you! want to dicuss this further?did you actually read the whole thread?
Quote from: elvis2003 on June 07, 2009, 22:52:30
how dare you! want to dicuss this further?did you actually read the whole thread?
Can I suggest you spare us all more grief and use the ignore button if you don't like a post/poster?
I'll second that Ceres.
Proposed, seconded, passed ::)
Quote from: ceres on June 07, 2009, 23:18:47
Quote from: elvis2003 on June 07, 2009, 22:52:30
how dare you! want to dicuss this further?did you actually read the whole thread?
Can I suggest you spare us all more grief and use the ignore button if you don't like a post/poster?
i shall from now on,can i just say that the guilty parties are keeping very quiet!i am not overly PC but was brought up to be very anti rascist,thanks dad! shirls joke has been apologised for,and that issue has been dealt with,as i said,lets move on hey
Quote from: elvis2003 on June 07, 2009, 22:52:30
Quote from: Melbourne12 on June 07, 2009, 16:44:13
Quote from: elvis2003 on June 06, 2009, 10:24:54
shirl,thank you for apologising,i was offended by your comment,and a few others ,but i accept you didnt mean any harm by it,lets just all move on now hey
Prig
how dare you! want to dicuss this further?did you actually read the whole thread?
;D ;D ;D Your response exceeded my expectations.
So we now know that not only are you a prig, you share a characteristic of many priggish people. You love to dish it out, but you can't take even the mildest criticism.
Quote from: runnerbean on June 06, 2009, 10:41:28
I don't post often, don't have much to say! But don't go because I love reading your posts, garden centre exploits, ower tone, I could go on and on.
couldn't agree more, where else would i get the chance to see the great structures you and Tone come up with and build (i wouldn't have any ideas to steal if you leave ;)). please don't go :-*.
edited: just finished reading the whole thing and i'm glad to see you are going to stick around, Hyacinth and Star glad to see your faces as well, missed you both :-*.
Quote from: Melbourne12 on June 08, 2009, 09:01:19
Quote from: elvis2003 on June 07, 2009, 22:52:30
Quote from: Melbourne12 on June 07, 2009, 16:44:13
Quote from: elvis2003 on June 06, 2009, 10:24:54
shirl,thank you for apologising,i was offended by your comment,and a few others ,but i accept you didnt mean any harm by it,lets just all move on now hey
Prig
how dare you! want to dicuss this further?did you actually read the whole thread?
;D ;D ;D Your response exceeded my expectations.
So we now know that not only are you a prig, you share a characteristic of many priggish people. You love to dish it out, but you can't take even the mildest criticism.
i don't normally get involved and you might be right in telling me to keep out off it then but could you both take it outside this thread please, it was going so very nicely.
glad to see you are staying ;)
Speaking of the absent... what happened to Emma?
peg
If you mean EJ, she had enough of the sniping and called it a day. :( :( :(
hi shirl i am like runner bean i dont coment on he forum much but i always read them and i like what you all have to say dont let them get you down just put a big ;D on your face and keep us all happy ;D ;D ;D