Having Children???
I find myself in the odd position of being home alone, hubby working till 3am (normal for me) Eldest at work, and youngest out at a party till 11.30.................. :o :o :o so home alone....Well apart from my Nephdog Guzzle. (sisters Jack Russell!)
Am feeling a bit at a loss, Took said dog for ((whisper mode on)) walkies((whisper mode off)) Got home and thought, oh weird, no one to run around after, what now? So long bubbly bath with a gardening book, oh and a glass of vino, and am now sitting here waiting for Dr Who to start. (Cos Captain Jack's back!)
At this rate if it continues like this I shall be able to have the time to start doing Bonsai's again, and my sewing, and my artwork......etc. etc. etc.
Maybe teenagers are not so bad......................when they are out of the house! ;) ;)
DP
Ooh DP you and me both, mine have all just dissappeared and I have a couple of hours before collecting the first one, with OH away too. It is strange isn't it. all those years of no time to ourselves and suddenly when it comes it feels so odd. I am torn between tidying up, going out in the garden and raking a new border OH has dug for me ready for my dahlias or settling down in front of tv to watch last nights GW, think I might watch GW with no interuptions ;) feels very decadent! Enjoy Dr Who and the peace! :)
Looks like a Home Alone weekend for some of us. OH is on a long golfing weekend. He is playing today and tomorrow with plenty of the hard stuff so staying away as well so I am all on my owneo. Not so keen on it either. Even my 2 nieces have gone to London for the weekend so have no one to call upon. I have passed the afterenoon OK and me and budgie have had a few words. Hopefully tomorrow will be dry and I shall take a walk somewhere and hopefully meet someone I know for a chat. :( :( :(
I think I am in a very happy place right now! Eldest grandson lived with us until he was 18+ so our "teenage" years were long (and mostly happily) extended. For the past 3 years it's been just Mr W and myself blissfully alone during the week - busy/or not, eating on time/or not, going out/or not - just suiting ourselves and rediscovering just how well we do suit together!
Then at the weekend Saturday is a family day with sons and younger grandchildren visiting and staying a while - love feeding everyone and getting a blether!
Like you DP I did once have plans about taking up all the old hobbies but mostly that never really happened - I am still full of good intentions tho!
DP.. are you taxi service at 11.30pm?
Lorna, no to the taxi service, else I wouldn't have had the glass of vino in the bath..................................how decadent did I feel! ;D ;D Mates parents picking them up.
Now sisters dog whining......cos he is an unfamiliar place, so eldest daughter now home feels sorry for him and has allowed him to sleep in her room!!!
I am sneezin me head off cos I am allergic to dogs!!! :o :o
But after having him for the eveing, nice to have the company!
(daughter can actually hear him SNORING now in her room!!!)
I think Wicker you are abs right, all the things I was going to take up again once they had flown the nest probably will not happen, though do rather fancy doing me bonsais again...................................................
Weird so many of us are home alone!!!
Yes DP, quite a coincidence. I now have middle son home but he is busy packing for a school geography trip tomorrow, the others will be home tomorrow evening so I have a gap during the day to get some gardening done and no cooking as they will have eaten, so not a bad day. Strange not to be all together for Fathers' Day, we did it Friday evening instead.
Will the dog last the night in daughter's room or will he keep her awake? :) When any of my lot sneak the cat in their room he always wakes them at 4.00am - serves them right... ;)
Don't get too comfy, they get married and then you become the baby sitter and it starts all over again !!!
But in the meantime, a bit further down the line, one moved out and one at home occasionally, it's heaven. Wicker is so right. Eating what and when we like, going where and when we like, finding NEW things to do, just pleasing ourselves for once. It's very, very nice. (but I so enjoy Sunday dinner when we are all together and glad to be so ;).)
I still have 2 left at home, and one occasional visitor when uni is on break. Every now and then, it times right and they all stay overnight at a friends at the same time. It is bliss!
I clean the kitchen before I go to bed, and no one makes a midnight snack, so it is still clean in the morning!!
There are no dirty socks anywhere to be seen.
The constant sound of music or computer games has dissapeared.
No one says they dont fancy what I have cooked.
I can watch TV or do a complicated knitting pattern without anyone wanting to discuss the meaning of life.
But....
I cant go out for too long, as the dog doesnt cope with an empty house.
There is no one for me to discuss the meaning of life with.
I cant get the hang of cooking small amounts of food, so the fridge is overflowing.
I didnt realise how unconfident I am if it is dark and I am the only one in the house.
I cant ask for help when I get into trouble with my computer, or the internet plays up.
cj :)
Yeah - I think the name they give this feeling is the "empty nest syndrome". I am starting to go through the same at the moment - eldest son 27 living with girlfriend and 16 year old always out with friends. Friday nights means hubby plays darts so I am at a loss and on my own. DH also works shifts so I have this extra time on my hands.
It is hard in the beginning as it feels that no one needs you anymore but I am trying to cope it by keeping busy and being kind to myself. I look at it like this - I have the remote to myself and can watch all my favourite gardening programmes without interruption, no dinner to prepare - except what I fancy for the evening. I can also spend as long as I like down at the lottie or pottering around the shed.
I think that we as mothers forget to spoil and look after ourselves properly - we must now re-learn to spoil and be kind to ourselves and not need to be doing things for others to validate outselves. This is a hard one when you are a mother - its hard to put the brakes on and let them go on their way.
But for their sakes it is essential.
Jitterbug
yep, you bring them up to be independent and it's miserable for a while when they go..but...they come back, with partners, with grandchildren, nice pressies, invites to holiday with them
we had a wonderful time on saturday, bbq, champagne, lots of loving talks, luckily, we all get on together and they actually like to come see us ;D
Manic So glad Sat went well, was thinking of you. Aren't we lucky to have happy families who like visiting us? I feel so sad for families who are split. I have a very large family and unfortunately there is one sister who hasn't spoken to her son and Grandchildren for several years.
most of my mum and dad's family I've not seen for 35 years, I'm so glad my lot like each other..and us ;D