I'm fed up now, I have just dealt with one of the rudest, most arrogant, ignorant, vile and other words which I can't think of at the moment, customers that I have ever dealt with. >:( >:( >:(
Gardeners used to be lovely people, but now there seems to be a new breed out there who think that they can be as rude as they want and get away with it. >:(. Unfortunately it is not just the younger ones, it seems to be across the board, and if you are a lord or lady, or on TV, that seems to give you licence to be as rude as you want! :o
There, thats got that off of my chest, thankyou for reading.
Loz
want me to bring my colli's over to sort them out
::)
I know what you mean Loz!
Peoples manners seems to have gone down the drain!
I entered a nursery the other day and the car in front saw that the car coming out contained a friend, so they both wound down their windows and had a good 4-5 min chat, blocking the entrance of course! I sat patiently, (they had both seen me enter) then thought oh s*d this, there is a space over there if I move that trolley, just started to move and the car coming out decided chat was over and time to unblock the entrance, I stopped, and saw the "chatter" swearing her head off at me! :o
The 2 that entered never looked me in the eye and said "oh sorry for holding you up", they just carried on around the nursery as if they had done nothing wrong!
Now I know it is probably really petty of me, but if I had seen a long lost friend I would have re-parked and gone and chatted, and if I had held anyone up and then seen them seconds later at close quarters I would have apologised!
I found it quite arrogant, and how rude to yell at me when she was the one holding everyone up.
Cor it obviously narked me than I thought, my rant over now! So it is not just your area Loz! ;)
Oh yeah agreed people are just so mean nowadays, whenever i cycle in traffic i have peeps pulling out in front of me, walking in front of me and generally getting in my way or pretending i aint there. Just being generally inconsiderate really.
At work there was a man i served who stopped me as i was making a capuchino, telling me that id done it wrong (hadnt too), then he proceeded to tell the man next to him that he thought he should be able to get a proper capuchino in the oil capital of Europe!
Although saying that, it makes it more memorable when peeps are nice when most are rude!
It is not just a new thing though, when I worked for my parents in the Hotel which they managed, some of the guests were beyond anything I had ever imagined people could be. One woman even stubbed her cigarette out on my father's arm becuae he did not seem to be listening to her trivial banal conversation. And all one could do was grin and bear it as they were the ones paying for our food and so on! Mind I did tell one arrogant b====== when I met him outside down the road exactly what I would to him if he ever spoke to our waitresses like he had done, again. He must have believed me 'cos he was nice as pie to them afer that.
Sorry but grin and bear it!
Why should you have to grin and bare it?
I have had to resort to telling a couple of clients over the years that I didn't want to do any future business with them. They were clearly trying to take me for a ride.
I did it politely, with conviction and explained exactly why... to say they were surprised was an understatement but I did enjoy it.
Derek
Oh dear - I'm a customer service manager and deal with far too many people who seem to think it's okay to be appallingly rude, without any reason whatsoever.
I'm not even going to begin to give examples - we'll be here for the next year!
LOL :D
I'm afraid that one of the problems is that these days (oh I sound old) many people decide that they have a right to something & they must have it NOW. God help anyone who might get in the way.
However, lets not forget all those nice polite people out there who dont make such an impact on you or who get forgotten. People like us in other words.
I have a put down for people who dont even aknowledge you when you hold the door open for them in shops etc.
After they breeze through catch up with them and ask .........
' What did you just say?'
'Nothing' will prolly be their reply
'Oh I thought you said Thank You' will be yours. ;D
I have a direct approach:
I project my voice as far as I can (but without shouting) and simply say: "YOU'RE VERY RUDE."
Not only does it let the person know what you think, it also lets everyone in the vicinity know, thereby giving the culprit some very unwanted attention.
Great in checkout queues, lifts; etc where they can't escape from their 'audience'.
>:( My car had stalled at some traffic lights just as the lights turned to green, the guy in the car behind me papped his horn several times to get me moving but it just didn't work. ::)
I got out of my car and and asked the guy politley if he would like to try and get my car started whilst I sit in his car papping his horn, he said "Oh sorry mate I didn't realise" I think his name was Richard Head ::)
Quote from: Roy Bham UK on June 09, 2005, 23:05:42
I think his name was Richard Head ::)
Know him well. He gets to be everywhere doesnt he? ;D
But don't you find that you always come up with the world's most witty, pointed, cutting, razor-tongued put-down every - roughly 3 hours after the event. Guess that makes the instance response so much more satisfying.
Ha ha that is so true BW. Very frustrating.
Oh I hate rudeness. There is no excuse for it.
Holding the door open for someone then a whole pile of people barge in without so much as a by your leave.
Roy I think you are brilliant for what you did! When I was taking a few driving lessons the impatience of people was astounding. Could they not see the great big sign on the roof of the car? Or the four L plates on our car? Everyone has to start as a learner but it seems everyone forgets. Anyway I have been put right off driving.
I HATE able bodied people who park in disabled parking spots. It drives me nuts . How uncaring, rude and selfish is that? Sometimes I wish bad things on that type of person which then makes me feel even worse because I like to be nice.To a lesser degree, those without children parking in parent and child spots. But that's cos I have two kiddies and usually alot of shopping to lug back to the car! It is a help to have the extra space. Atleast I can walk to a spot farther away if we can't park in those parent places.
Thank you guys & gals!
I totally agree with you all, and I'm glad that there are nice people out there ;D ;D
- its also nice to know that it's not personally me!
Roy , I must admit that I've also done that to a driver many years ago, and that was just after I passed my test and stalled at lights.
Today is a better day though, only one rude one, and that wasn't too bad. Still it's the weekend, and the only thing that can be rude to me is the chickens! ;)
Loz
ooh - don't get me started. This is one of the things that makes me most angry.
The other day I was twice hit by children. It didn't hurt in any way, but it was the fact that both the children and their parents did not even acknowledge that it'd happened. When I was a kid (makes me feel old now!) I would've whispered a quiet apology (very shy child) or made to do so by my mum.
And then there are the people who think the rules do not apply to them, such as the man who parked his flash car on a double yellow and then came out screaming at the traffic warden who was putting a ticket on the offending vehicle. The driver seemed to be expecting the onlookers to back him up, but the warden was just doing his job and the driver was breaking the law and got what he deserved.
I'll stop there. But agree with BW - hours later. Sometimes even days! I just wish occassionally I could turn back time...
:'( :'(   :'(  Yep I agree with you, It appears to be right across the board, A different breed are appearing in the UK, have noticed this for a few years now. No wonder the kids are as they are. You know it all comes back to the parent thingy and also the do gooders from the 80's who stopped the parents controlling their kids. Should have been around in my age group for discipline, but you know, it never did us any harm, but our kids kids have been given the world as their oyster and don't give a toss for anything or anybody, just self self self and that includes some of mine also. ??? ??? ???
I've never had too much trouble controlling my kids, do-gooders or no. I think things have gone too far in some respects - I've been among the many teachers who have been suspended (very briefly in my case) after a malicious allegation from a pupil, who recieved no punishment whatsoever. That sort of thing isn't on. But when i think of the routine violence which used to be aimed at many kids, without any comment from anyone, I think something did need to change. But we still need to find the happy medium.
If people are rude to me I'm simply far more rude back, my poor wife sometimes gets quite embarrassed but frankly I enjoy it ;D ;D ;D
I don't think we should go down the root of making out it is kids who are the rude ones. I personnally think it is far more prevalent in older generations unfortunately.
There are loads of jolly decent kids about but they do not receive any mention because of the few who spoil it for them. Whilst we go on and on about how bad things are today....I remember things such as football hooligans in the 70's.
Why do we dwell on the negative? Why don't we start to give the decent folk a mention and ignore the rude rotters,afterall they are purely small minded attention seekers. We know this, so why do we let them get under our skin?!
Having said all that. I can't stand rudeness,I find it upsetting but I need to let it go and see those people for the fools they are and tell myself everyone else probably thinks the same way about them.
I think a great many of them learn it from their parents. There are always families who do nothing but swear, and even the politer ones sometimes have the most appalling attitudes simmering away underneath. The kids don't have the sophistication to disguise it.
I agree with you Heldi - I found an old newspaper under some floorboards the other day from 1975 and almost every story was about 'hooliganism' and teenagers mugging, attacking and generally being pretty unpleasant. Sound like todays papers? And of course thouse hooligans are todays parents of teenagers...... and so it goes on.
On the other hand just recently I have come across several lovely young people in our village who have gone out of their way to help me and have been very polite.
I doubt very much that those 'Rude people' will remember the people they are rude to, they just move onto the next person. So don't waste your energy/pain and anger on them, it's their conscience that they have to restle with. We on the other hand will RISE ABOVE IT ALL, because we are better than them.
Here's to the NICE people. ;) ;) ;)