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General => The Shed => Topic started by: Multiveg on November 24, 2005, 19:06:49
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My dad is dying - the doctor said to my mum that he probably wouldn't last more than 2 days. He had a heart attack, and cannot swallow - they fed him directly into the vein but the maximum time on that is up. They wanted to do a tube direct into stomach but he is too weak for the procedure.
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Mia, I have pm'ed you.
Our thoughts are with you girl.
Love as ever,
Emma & Mark
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Multiveg sorry to hear the bad news my heart goes out to you, I hope that your Father does not suffer at all.
God bless. Richard
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Oh Multiveg. My heart goes out to you and your family.
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Have sent you a pm. Will be thinking of you.
God bless.
Lily
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This is indeed sad news, my heart reaches out to you as well :'(
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Many thanks for your thoughts.
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Awww Multi, can't imagine how you must be feeling, thinking of you and yours......
Lottie
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I am sorry to hear this. It is a very hard thing to have to go through.
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Multiveg I am so sorry to hear your news, I will be thinking of you and your family and what you are going through over the next few days. Do take care.
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Ditto - my thoughts are with you and your family x
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thinking of you M
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We are all thinking of you and your family M
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Multi, I am so sorry to hear your news. My thoughts are with you at this difficult time. All my love and good wishes to you and the rest of your family. busy_lizzie
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Dear Mia...............
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So sorry to hear your news Multiveg. Thinking of you.
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My thoughts with you. Love and hugs to all your family Aqui
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Many thanks peeps for your thoughts.
I was reading the bbc news website about George Best. Was starting to compare them - though no alcohol/liver problem for my dad, they both aren't well bunnies, and I just hope we can get there in time - travelling across country isn't easy and now there is snow.... My dad hasn't been sent off for throwing mud at a referee.
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Oh no, *hugs* sent from me to you wherever you are, currently! I hope you have got to him in time.
moonbells
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I'm very sorry Multi. Thinking of you. x
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Im VERY sorry for you, my thoughts are with you and your family at this difficult time.
All the best,
Dan
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Your in our thoughts here Mia. If you need to talk PM me mate. :) (((((( HUGS )))))
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Multi - others have said it much better here, but thinking of you and hoping you and your family find strength and comfort at such a difficult time.
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Multiveg. Would like to add my thoughts for you and your family, especially your Mum. I am sure she will have love surrounding her to help her through the days ahead. Lorna.
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Dear Multiveg, sending you and your family all the best and will remember you all in my prayers. I shall be thinking of you all . Rosebud.
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Ditto.
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Can't think of anything else to say that doesn't sound insignificant. I don't know you but I have been through this. Pm me if you want.
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Multiveg, sending you and your family hugs and good wishes, so sorry to hear your sad news.
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Just to let you know that my father died this morning at 5.30. We were not with him and even if they had phoned earlier, we would not have been let in to see him die in what I think was a horrible, painful but quick way.
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Oh Multi, I'm so sorry, don't know what to say, am just so sad for you.....my heart goes out to you..
Lottie
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Multi What can I say. I really do feel for you and hope you accept my sympathy.. Hard days/months ahead. I am sure you will be there for your Mum. You know you have a lot of friends on A4A who will all be sending their love...... Lorna.
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Multi, you have my support and you know where i am if you need anything.
speak to you soon! adam x
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I'm so sorry Multi, sending you lots of cyberhugs.
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Multi Sorry to hear your very sad news about your dad. Chin up for your ma though eh :)
It's very tough when we lose our folks, I lost both mine, and I loved them so much :'(
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I am so very sorry to hear your sad news Multi. My Love and thoughts are with you and your family. busy_lizzie
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Multi, so very sorry to hear your sad news please except my families sympathy.
thinking of you all bless your heart. Mary.
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Mia, have pm'ed you. Girl, you, Osian and your family are in my thoughts.
Much love as ever,
Emma
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I am truly lost for words here, hugs are the only language that says it for me.
Derekthefox
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My condolences to you and yours.
Glyn
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sharing your sorrow at the loss of someone dear
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I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. Please accept my deepest sympathy at this difficult time ahead.
Lily
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Sorry to hear of your loss Mia. Best wishes to you and your family.
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many thanks peeps. He will be cremated, but date not yet sorted. My mum doesn't want the ashes, but I could have them, otherwise, the crematorium scatter them over the roses. Perhaps I could add them to the compost heap.
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If you do keep the ashes, it would be nice to have them buried under a shrub or bush that flowers at this time of year. A cornus perhaps with it's brilliant red stems. My parents ashes are scattered under a tree at the crematorium. The tree has lovely deep red foliage in the spring.
Regards
Lily
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When my dad was cremated he was 'planted' in the garden of rememberance. You have never seen such lush green grass! Mia, you think long and hard about your dad's ashes and what you want done with them.
Love
Emma
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Thinking of where the crem is, it is quite a way so leaving the ashes with them I don't think is feasible. If we have them on the allotment, I think they would be beneficial. He liked allotments, and that is where my love of gardening came from. I don't think my mum would like an urn with them in sitting on a shelf. He didn't believe that there was anything after death. I remember we used bone meal (as well as blood, fish and bone) in the garden - maybe using his ashes somehow in the garden/allotment would be fitting.
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I agree with EJ. It's what you and your mum are comfortable with. Take plenty of time to think about it. Don't let anyone rush you.
Lily
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She said she is happy for me to have the ashes. My dad lives on in my brother, myself and Osian with the genes, that is all that matters to her, not where the ashes go.
Whatever I will do with them, it will be in the new year.
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Sensible thinking Multiveg.
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Just read the whole of this thread and I was so sorry to hear about your Dad. My heart goes out to you and your family. Thinking of you all.
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Mia - big hug to you and your family. My deepest sympathy.
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i agree with spreading the ashes, personnally i would spread them and then plant something on that spot as someone has suggested that flowers or similar about now.
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My thoughts are with you