This Saturday, my husband and I will have been married for 40 years. He says that a murderer doing life doesn't get that long a sentence!
It has got me wondering how we have survived for so long especially as we argue quite a bit and have separated at times though, for financial reasons, have continued to share the same house. I have been dwelling on how we have managed to survive all these years when others would have split up years ago. I came to the conclusion that it's because we share the same values.
Politically we are both left of centre. We are caring people and feel for others that are struggling on benefits because of illness, disabilities, unemployment and those on very low incomes. Being atheists we have no religious differences. We both love the countryside and the flora and fauna within it. Gardening is enjoyable to both of us though I know he moans when he has to cut the grass or hedges, but it is a price we pay for having a large garden.
So what do we argue about? ........................ it's weedkiller. I have really put my foot down these past few years over his desire to put weedkiller on the vegetable beds. I have managed to stop him so far. He has now put weedkiller on our patio. He has been too busy to cement between the paving slabs and weeds such as thistles and shepherd's purse have found their way through. I just don't see the point of putting weedkiller on them as they will shed their seeds before they die. I could so easily have dug them out but now I am told to leave them. At least we discuss our problems even if they do lead to arguments.
So will we reach our 50th eventually? I think so unless he doesn't do as he is told in which case he may find the weedkiller in his wine!!