Summergirl, you wrote that everyone seems to have different ideas on the best time to do things. That should tell you something. There is no set time to do things, just a general time frame. So, don't worry too much about it.
It sounds like you made a good start, try not to over do things or the fun will go out of it. Clear a bit, sow a bit, clear some more, plant a bit, etc. Not long periods of doing the same thing is what works for me.
Good luck.