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Can someone explain the male thing please?
actually the advice for outdoor varieties is leave the male flowers on. The bitterness is caused by adverse growing conditions like it being too hot or irregular watering. you may find that the end near the flower tastes OK, but once you've tasted a bad one, the merest hint of bitterness and you start to gag
The boys fertilise the girls, making them bitter.
What does a male flower look like?