Author Topic: NOT being morbid !.... how would you like your funeral to be, bet you have g (Read 9155 times)

beckydore · « **Reply #20 on:** February 22, 2009, 19:40:08 »

My Aunty died in December and had a wicker casket. I'm not sure where it was from but it looked quite like this....
http://www.wickerwillowcoffins.co.uk/photo.php?image=images/coffins/traditional/large/001F.jpg

Both Me and Mum looked at each other and said, when I go, I'd like one like that.

I would like a green burial site too.

Becky

pippy · « **Reply #21 on:** February 22, 2009, 20:29:02 »

I always remember a story about a sailor who wanted his ashes scattered over the river Trent where he had sailed many times (a club I am a member of). It was all arranged and the Steward of the club at the time rowed his son, a church preacher and a couple of other close friends out in a boat.

Well, the preacher said his words, and the son was so moved he dropped the ashes urn over the side of the boat .... and it floated. The steward (never lost for a solution to a problem) simply reveresed an oar and proceeded to batter it into submersion! thus was his last ever sail (or capsize)!! Has amused us all ever since and given him the last laugh!

For me - I am happy to burn, but would like my ashes scattered on Tryfan (a mountain) where I have had some delightful days! A celebration sounds far better than a funerel too!

Carol · « **Reply #22 on:** February 22, 2009, 20:38:54 »

I am friendly with one of the local undertakers for this area and when I asked him about the price of a green burial he said they were much more expensive than a Local burial or cremation. Not sure about the price of a wicker coffin but the plots for a Green burial are expensive. as below

http://www.nativewoodland.eu/index.php?page=how-much

tonybloke · « **Reply #23 on:** February 22, 2009, 22:05:59 »

Quote from: flossy on February 22, 2009, 18:15:37

I agree that funerals can be expensive, but an Eco or environmentally friendly affair has got to be cheaper surely -- anyway it's each to his own of course, :)
What I would like anyone to tell me is -- have you heard of any such like cemetries that
have developed with this type of burial as a priority ?
http://www.woodlandburialparks.co.uk/

When I lived in Devon, there was a beautiful field we often walked very close to us, that was rumoured to be of this type in the future ! Great , I thought - cant think of anywhere I would rather be. Needless to say , we moved so at the moment I am anybodies, :o ::) ;D
Also has anyone heard of a whicker casket please ? floss xxx

http://www.woodlandburialparks.co.uk/

flossy · « **Reply #24 on:** February 23, 2009, 08:42:10 »

Becky thank you, what a beautiful casket ! Just perfect -- will print it out.

I have looked through both the sites Carol and tonybloke, thank you -- they are truly

amazing. Gave me goosebumps as I watched the Video presentation, so peaceful and

a wonderfuly calm and beautiful setting for your family to visit. Can see my Grandchildren

enjoying a relaxed day out when they go to visit Nan.

Looks like I had better start saving ! Think I want a birdbox too -- for a robin, :)

floss xxx

Froglegs · « **Reply #25 on:** February 23, 2009, 10:52:50 »

Told my lot they can do with me what they want, it's not like i will be able to complain is it. :)

ACE · « **Reply #26 on:** February 23, 2009, 20:17:02 »

I ain't really fussed, but no preaching and praying, and 'Come on baby light my fire' as I go through the curtains.

tonybloke · « **Reply #27 on:** February 23, 2009, 21:59:32 »

how about elvis singing 'return to sender' ;)

Mrs Ava · « **Reply #28 on:** February 24, 2009, 00:13:07 »

;D at both you Ace, and you tony. Very good.

I remember when I arranged dads funeral, the cardboard coffin was a hell of a lot more expensive that their cheapest box. I mentioned that they could sling me on a bonfire at the allotment if they like, but we decided to site secretary, whose garden borders the plot, might not be too chuffed.

One reason I don't want to be buried is I don't want my surviving family to feel it is their duty to tend a grave. I don't want to be remember as dead! My great grandma and grandad are both buried in Devon, and it has been given to me as my duty to tend the grave whenever I visit. Yes, it is lovely and peaceful, and I do have a chat, but it is a responsibility I don't want my kids to have to worry about. I would rather them remember me in happier places as I remember my dad.

flossy · « **Reply #29 on:** February 24, 2009, 08:15:21 »

star, think that the Duchess of Bedford had similar thoughts as you, she acquired

a cardboard casket and was in the process of decorating it with the help of

a professional artist. She did not want to join the urns of her husbands

ancesters, that were alcoved around a special room. Can't remember what

her plans for burial were.

floss xxx

shirlton · « **Reply #30 on:** February 24, 2009, 08:20:16 »

Tone and I have prepaid funerals cos the kids won't ever be able to afford to pay for them. When we went to arrange them I asked the lady how much the horse drawn glass carriages were and she said an extra 400quid. I said was it possible to get a ride in one before I passed away as I know when I see one I always stop and admire them. Needless to say she said "Don't think so love" I would just like to watch folks faces as I am passing by. (think I would have to have some holes drilled in the box so that I could see out though.

samela · « **Reply #31 on:** February 24, 2009, 08:21:12 »

I have always wanted to be cremated, never wanted to be worm food. I quite liked the idea of having my ashes made into a diamond and worn lovingly by some family member for all time..... ;D However, having researched the price and the thought of ending up in some porn shop at some point for the rest of my undead life, I have decided that I would like my ashes to be scattered from the rope swing in my local woods. I loved playing on it as a child and now my children (and me) still enjoy it today. It's a beautiful place and I like the idea of being scattered by someone a)trying to hold on to the swing and b) scatter me at the same time would be quite funny to watch ;D ;D ;D

betula · « **Reply #32 on:** February 24, 2009, 08:30:25 »

Remember that bride who got chucked out the carrage when the horse bolted,dread to think of that happening with a funeral,they do look very grand though. ;D

In some country's you get laid out in the desert,not much left of you very quickly.I like that idea.

I don't care if my box is wooden or cardboard,I don't fancy my kids or Grandkids drawing on it,It is all too morbid for me.

Just hope they have a good party with music I like.

I want to live on in their minds and heart. ;D

ACE · « **Reply #33 on:** February 24, 2009, 08:31:31 »

I know somebody who had some ashes set into glass balls and they are now a solitaire set. I would hate to be stood on the mantlepiece until someone got clumsy and I finished up in the hoover. I would get my wife to scatter me in the sea near Rio. That would give her an excuse to have a good holiday.

sarah · « **Reply #34 on:** February 24, 2009, 09:15:31 »

we recently buried my mother in a woodland burial ground and it was organised by the co-operative. she had a wicker coffin very similar to the photo posted. we took the cheapest option on most things and my father also bought a plot for himself next to my mum. the whole thing cost over three grand which is a lot of money in anyones book. the minister said that a cremation would have been a similar price (but it was not a consideration for us). my mum wanted to be buried at the woodland burial. i actually like having a place to go and 'visit' mum. i dont know why - its not like i dont think about her any other time, but having a grave gives me a focal point and the burial ground is such a beautiful and peaceful place to go. each to their own i guess. if i had the money i would buy a plot there now.

Barnowl · « **Reply #35 on:** February 24, 2009, 10:29:20 »

Quote from: ACE on February 23, 2009, 20:17:02

I ain't really fussed, but no preaching and praying, and 'Come on baby light my fire' as I go through the curtains.

I want 'Smoke gets in your eyes'

then East St. Louis Toodle-oo either Duke Ellington or Steely Dan's version

carrot-cruncher · « **Reply #36 on:** February 24, 2009, 21:28:26 »

Quote from: samela on February 24, 2009, 08:21:12

I have always wanted to be cremated, never wanted to be worm food. I quite liked the idea of having my ashes made into a diamond and worn lovingly by some family member for all time..... ;D However, having researched the price and the thought of ending up in some porn shop at some point for the rest of my undead life, I have decided that I would like my ashes to be scattered from the rope swing in my local woods. I loved playing on it as a child and now my children (and me) still enjoy it today. It's a beautiful place and I like the idea of being scattered by someone a)trying to hold on to the swing and b) scatter me at the same time would be quite funny to watch ;D ;D ;D

Samela

I'm gonna assume you meant "pawn" shop 'cos your spelling gave me some really funny ideas for a moment or two ;D ;D

CC

froglets · « **Reply #37 on:** February 25, 2009, 10:44:05 »

Great thread folks.

I went to a funeral about 10 years ago & came away quite angry as I knew it did not represent the person who had died. Louise was in her early 30's and had died in a climbing accident. Her family had a religeous ceremony which meant her gay partner was excluded and was there with us as a member of the climbing club. We all knew Louise had different views on religeon from her parents and the whole thing felt wrong. Many of us said our goodbyes afterwards in something more befitting to her life.

Then 3years ago when my dad died and I arranged the funeral they way my mum asked, I was very aware how much it was for her and his friends and to fit in with their need to see "things done right". Now I have a dilemma - when my mum goes, I will have a church service for her as she would want that and so will her friends, family and the people she spent her life amongst. I hate church funerals as they are all about concepts I have no belief in, but for propriety sake, I suspect I will have to turn up and sit through it.

For me, it's easy - no kids and a partner who understands my connection to the earth, was cardboard, but I love that wicker thing, no gods, apart from those my friends want to bring, a tree up above and get it over with quick, I've gone, I'm not there in that shell any more, don't linger unless it helps them out ( assuming anyone will miss me, I'm a cantankerous old bag already!)

Important thing is to talk about it if it matters.

Cheers

Kendy · « **Reply #38 on:** February 25, 2009, 11:32:58 »

I don't want any religious involvement in mine. A simple cremation and my ashes scattered from Loughrigg Fell overlooking Grasmere in the Lake District .

Hyacinth · « **Reply #39 on:** February 25, 2009, 17:09:16 »

End of the day, funerals are for the living and for making them feel good when the day's over and they're left with memories?

So.....whatever you really want, why not make these wishes known and make good preparations/payments for them NOW?

Enough that those you leave behind have to cope with their own stress/loss etc., so go on! take your life/death in your own hands while you can....

Your loved ones will thank you for it and hey! If you decide to put a little something behind a bar for them, they might even drink your health ;D ;D ;D

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