Author Topic: Things still not improving (Read 3766 times)

RSJK · « **on:** March 17, 2007, 21:43:55 »

Please someone fast forward the clock and get me out of 2007, I had to see a specialist last Tuesday because I have been having trouble getting my breath for these last 12 to 15 months, Got to go in hospital this thursday to have some camera put down into my lungs now to see what is going on. Its just one thing after the other with me just lately. Went to see my Father in the chapple of rest today as it is the funeral on Monday it suddenley hit me that this was my last chance to see him, what I would have given to bring him to life again, said a few words to himon how I missed him, loved him and thanked him for all the things that he taught me in life. My world just seems to be falling apart at the moment I know things must get better but at the moment, I do not know when and how.
If there is a God hope he looks after Dad for me, he was a hard working man who looked after is children well and taught all eight of us how to respect other people and their property.
If you can read this Dad I love you and always will love you, you were the best.

Loving Son Richard

Marymary · « **Reply #1 on:** March 17, 2007, 21:56:33 »

Oh Richard this is a terrible time for you. All I can say is yes it will get better & I'm sure your dad knew how much he was loved - what more can any of us want?

Take care & I hope it goes as well as it can on Monday.

Jeannine · « **Reply #2 on:** March 17, 2007, 21:59:39 »

Hi Richard,it is difficult to know what to say to you as I can see you are really hurting just now,but if it helps in any tiny way I have been where you are and it does get easier.

It was said in a previous thread that your Dad is right by your side in spirit and it is possible to draw strength from that.

I have no doubt thatt there is a God and that your Dad is fine,I wish I could send my faith over to you but I cannot, but I can send Christian love to you which I do with sincerity.

Things look very black to you now,I can understand that very well but life will get better,in the meantime I am adding your name to my prayer chain.

Hang in their Richard, I am quite sure there are lots of people sending you similar messages of support and draw on the memories your Dad gave you and the things he taught you, he sounded like a very special man.

Please accept my Christian love and the prayers of my friends on the chain.

XX Jeannine

manicscousers · « **Reply #3 on:** March 17, 2007, 22:00:18 »

all the stress at the moment won't help you richard I'll remember you in my prayers tonight..things will get better try to get as much rest as you can..i've had the dreaded camera down there, not as bad as I'd imagined be with those you love and who care about you..take it easy, manic mal :-* :)

markyb23 · « **Reply #4 on:** March 17, 2007, 22:05:28 »

Hi Richard,
   really sorry to see you're feeling so low. I hope that things start to pick up for you, I'm sure that, in time they will.
  I remember a while back, seeing the photo's of your amazing cabbage patch and thinking how I'd love to grow just one cabbage like that one day.
  You've got lots of stuff like that to share with us, so keep on growing.
   Hope you're feeling better soon.
   All The Best-Mark.B.

lorna · « **Reply #5 on:** March 17, 2007, 23:00:49 »

Richard. As others have said things will get a little easier. My Dad who I adored died 3 months after I got married. He brought up 9children. Even after all these years when I am looking at family photos on my lounge wall I still talk to him. When I lost my husband 4 years ago I wondered how I would carry on but I just look at our 4 great children and 8 Grandchildren and think how lucky I was to have been married to him for 50 years.
Richard I will be thinking of you and your family on Monday. Take care.
Lorna.

flossie · « **Reply #6 on:** March 17, 2007, 23:13:25 »

Hello Richard - thinking of you and your family - all good wishes - take care of yourself

busy_lizzie · « **Reply #7 on:** March 18, 2007, 01:22:04 »

Richard I am so sorry that life is looking bleak right now. It has been a terrible time for you, but you just hold on tight and have trust, because I am sure things will get better for you. It is perfectly natural you are feeling the way you do. It is a big deal when someone you have been so close to has died. I always think that once the funeral is over with and you have said a proper goodbye, then the healing process can start. I am a firm believer that love can never die, and your Dad will always be close by you. Just take one day at a time, and gradually the pain will ease and only the happy memories will remain.

I am sorry too that you are having health problems, especially now when you are feeling very fragile, but it is good that they are doing a thorough investigation, so that if there is a problem they can sort it. Try not to worry, the world will turn and things will settle down. We are all sending you positive vibes. busy_lizzie

coznbob · « **Reply #8 on:** March 18, 2007, 07:57:53 »

I know at this time there is not a lot anyone can say to make you feel better.
It will get easier, but the problem is getting through until then. All you can do is remember all the special times you and your father have had together, once you have said goodbye tomorrow try and think of all the positive things that you can do to try and honour his memory.

Our thoughts are with you.

OliveOil · « **Reply #9 on:** March 18, 2007, 08:18:28 »

Awww Richard - you're having a tough time of it aren't you. We are all thinking about you and will be thinking of you on Monday.

teresa · « **Reply #10 on:** March 18, 2007, 10:32:43 »

Oh bless you Richard,
Someone told me years ago when you hit rockbottom there is only one way and that is up. That has always helped me over the years.
I lost my dad 15 months ago died in my arms, I am sure your dad knew you loved him as mine did. The funeral try to think of it as a celebration of his life a tribuite of the love of the family.
Plant something in memory, I still have dads rock garden, and mums border with her plants I look at them and feel good.
Good luck Thursday, and do try and get away for a weekend or plan a holiday it helps.
Cyber hugs for the comming week.

saddad · « **Reply #11 on:** March 18, 2007, 10:49:13 »

Hope you have begun to turn the corner Richard, both my Dad and D-in Law died within 6 months of each other and I was under investigation for something.. and had to have a node out of my neck, left a lovely scar! That was all over twenty years ago.... things will improve...
:(

honeybee · « **Reply #12 on:** March 18, 2007, 11:50:10 »

Hi Richard, Ive been thinking of you and wondering how you are xxx

Your post left me in tears and I recalled the very same thoughts when i left my own Dad after my last visit to the chapple, its so hard to understand that you will never see them again :'(

Losing a parent has to be one of the most traumatic things in the world and my thoughts are with you xxxx

kitten · « **Reply #13 on:** March 18, 2007, 12:18:44 »

Richard i'm so sorry you're going through this rough time right now. What you are experiencing is perfectly natural, it's your way of grieving, there's no quick fix with it, you've just got to let it happen. One thing that helped me when i lost my uncle two years ago was to think of how proud i was that he was my uncle, rather than how sad i was to have lost him. I know it may take a while, but you will get there.

I too believe there is a God, and believe that we will all be reunited with our loved and lost ones again one day in paradise, where we will all be well, and life will be good.

I'll be thinking of you tomorrow, hope it goes as well as can be expected. Take good care of yourself, kitten x

Jeannine · « **Reply #14 on:** March 18, 2007, 13:08:57 »

Hi Richard, thinking of you today, Take care XX Jeannine

caroline7758 · « **Reply #15 on:** March 18, 2007, 13:42:29 »

So sorry to hear you have yet another worry.Take care xx

Hyacinth · « **Reply #16 on:** March 18, 2007, 17:03:24 »

I'm adding to alll the above, Richard. All good thoughts for tomorrow and for the H.visit.

Lish

shirlton · « **Reply #17 on:** March 18, 2007, 17:30:45 »

Hello Richard. It must be so hard for you losing your dad cos he sounds like he was a nice fella. You are so fortunate to have had a dad that you could look up to Richard. The memory of him will stay with you forever.You can come on here and tell us some of the things he used to do. I'm sure that would make you feel a little better. I hope your hospital visit goes ok. We will be thinking about you my dear

emmy1978 · « **Reply #18 on:** March 19, 2007, 14:38:20 »

Richard, I hope your hospital visit went well. Life really seems to heap it on sometimes hey? You can't imagine that things can ever improve, but they do, but the old maxim about time being the healer is so true. We are still grieving the loss of my mother in law in November. Yesterday would have been her 53rd birthday and it was a very hard day.
I'm so sorry the loss of your father has been so difficult and I feel it is testament to what you have to say about him. That he was a fantastic bloke who looked after his family, and a man who will be terribly missed. That was your dad and you're lucky to have had him and to have him now watching over you.
Take care. x

prink13 · « **Reply #19 on:** March 19, 2007, 14:47:22 »

Richard, can only express my thoughts as others have before - will think of you today, and remember there is always someone here to talk to when things seem too much

Kathi

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